BAOBOX

Last Saturday, I had a visit to Baobox, a restaurant based in Westlands , the street is westlands road 8th floor in Pramukh towers with my friends just to relax and to easen up( quite a healthy practise ). Baobox is a premier board game cafe in East and Central Africa that focuses on creating something unique exempting technology through their games. Today I will give the things I love about the place and you should visit when you have a chance.

The entrance to baobox
Photos from baobox.com

1.The environment

I love the environment in the restaurant ,the furniture itself is indigenous, made of wood and maasai shukas in the couch .I love the fact that the spaces is quite enough as they have like a group type of space and I would recommend such a space for events like birthday parties. They have a section where they place their board games is quite tremendous and organized. The restaurant has a nice ambience with a rooftop that is good for taking photographs.

The indeginius furniture in baobox from the rooftops
Photo from baobox.com

2. The food

Wow is enough to describe the pizza we had there , I could literally feel the ingredients in the pizaa. What I loved most was the fact that the base of the pizza was very flat yet appealing to the audience. We had the Banker pizza that consists of a standard with ground beef, meaty beef sausage, bacon, mushroom, caramlesed onions and BBQ sauce.

3.The games

They have a variety of games but I will just mention the few we were able to play.

The games stand
Photo from baobox.com

a. Hot seat

It consists of several cards that have quite intruding questions the kind of questions that never have I ever have that at times are quite embarrasing to answer in public .

b. Singing game

It consists of several cards that have 2 songs each with 3 marks with the songs and the artists names that the participants ought to sing it and they are awarded marks. What I love about this games was the fact that it was promoting the Kenyan music which is a good way to go.

c. Jenga

This is a physical skill game that players take turns removing one block at a time from a tower constructed of 54 blocks. Each block removed is then placed on top of the tower, creating a progressively more unstable structure .

The Jenga game

d. Vote

It is played with a couple of friends, there are questions and you get to choose/ vote who is most likely to do whatever is on the question. What I loved about it was the fact that you get an overview of what your friends think of you.

The vote game in abox

e. Mind game

This is a board game that tests your memory and your memorizing power. There are 12 different things positioned on the board and you ought to memorize the position of the things hence it juggles your brains.

To play unlimited games they charge 1000 Kenyan shillings.

I loved this place to be honest , I had a nice time you can visit once in a while whenever you are free.

How the Jenga game is played

Have a lovely week and see you next Tuesday.☺️

BHAJIA RECIPE

Once in a while I love cooking exotic meals , and I thought why not share some of my recipes with my wordpress family. A little history about my cooking skills, I hate cooking for a fact ( cant believe I said that aloud 😂), not that much but there times I do feel like cooking and the few times I do be rest assure for something epic ( of course being brought up with a chef why would I not acquire the most amazing cooking skills.)

Ingredients

  1. Wheat flour
  2. Salt ( to your satisfaction)
  3. Tumeric
  4. Cumin seeds
  5. Coriander
  6. Sliced potatoes( as per the quantity you want to cook)
  7. Chillies
  8. Eggs
  9. Cooking oil

Method

  1. In a bowl, mix the flour together with the spices; the salt to add flavour to the bhajia, tumeric to give the bhajia the yellow colour, cumin seeds for some taste and the chillies, add the coriander in the mixture evenly to ensure that the whole mixture has been mixed well.
  2. In the mixture, depending with the quantity of the flour in the bowl , you should beat an egg or eggs as you mix with the mixture ( NB ensure that the mixture is thick)
  3. Add the potatoes to the mixture , as you ensure that both sides of the potatoes is covered with the mixture.
  4. In a pan, heat it with oil for about 15 minutes .
  5. Put the potatoes in the heated pan, you can cook the potatoes at intervals of approximately 7 minutes.
What a lovely snack🤩

You can serve the bhajia with soup or sauce of your choice.

MY SKINCARE ROUTINE

It does not matter with your age ,but a skincare routine is mandatory as why not love your skin. Its been 10 months since I started this journey of skin care and am quite pleased with the results as it took time because I had a face that had acne for quite some time. We shall have a look at the 3 products that have been effective in the routine.

a. ) My Siri black soap

Basically this soap is used to wash\cleanse your face( can also be used for bathing) I wash my face twice in a day, one early in the morning when I wake up and in the evening when am heading to bed. I do this because during the day our body collects a lot of dust from the atmosphere and going to bed with it is just damaging your skin for no good reason. I use my Siri black soap, pineapple flavor to be precise and the scent it has is just magical.

Ingredients

Vegetable oil, coconut husk, herbal extract, fragrance and aqua.

Usage

Scoop from a jar, gentle rub the soap in your palm with some water for it to lather and apply on your face gentle as you massage.

Benefits of the black soap

  1. Its anti bacterial and anti fungal .

2.It helps exfoliate the skin.

3. It improves skin texture.

4. It helps attain an even skin tone.

5. It helps fight acne and to reduce fine lines.

b.) Marie Shea and coco butter

This is body oil that has natural ingredients and also acts as a moisturizer .

Ingredients

Organic shea butter, cocoa butter, essential oils, moringa and blackseed.

Usage

Take the shea butter and put on your palm rub it then apply to whichever area of body .

Benefits

Helps clear stretch marks , blackspots and skin blemish.

Moisturize soften the skin.

It helps skin glow naturally.

c.) Powder mask\ Quasil

I mask my face twice a week as its healthy for the skin.

Ingredients

Tumeric that treats eczema, anti inflammatory ( property substance treatment reduce inflammation) and it is anti bacterial.

Quasil that contains anti oxidants, anti inflammatory components treat acne, get rid of dead skin cells and nourishing the skin.

Sandadwood originates from sandadwood Santalum genus , it has the ability to moisturize the skin and exfoliate the skin.

Liwa powder that is effective in soaking excess oil and sebum from the skin and it is the remedy that gives clear skin.

The main reason why I always love these 3 products is the fact that they are made out of natural components hence has no effect on the skin.

Have a lovely weekend fam.😊

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY

Tomorrow , I will be celebrating my first anniversary in word press and as a blogger , am super excited about it . I have really come a long way, looking at my previous posts and the recent one’s there is a huge difference in the appearance, the type of content I posted, the audience engagement and the length.

A little history about my blog, I started it after a friend of mine emboldened me to start a blog though I was hesitant about that idea but here we are , my favorite activity of my week. I have always loved writing for ages though It was very lowkey , I used to do a lot of poems back then and a few articles here and there but my passion increased the moment I started my blog as I had that commitment towards it. I will briefly look into lessons I have learnt during this writing journey.

1.Discipline

Discipline for me is basically sticking to something you believe in whether it works or not but you religious do it every time. I have had to learn the art of being discipline in my consistency and it has definitely worked for me because with time it becomes a habit and you no longer have to struggle with I have to write.

2. Patience

One of the virtue I have had to learn during this period is patience , personally am an impatient person but in order to perfect your skill you have to trust the process and be patient with yourself . I remember my first posts I really didn’t have an audience engagement It took time to gain an engagement but it was worth the time. A piece of advise good things take time so you have to be patient.

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3. Consistency

In building anything you believe in be it writing, singing or any other talent you have to have consistency to prosper . In my field of writing its quite important to have schedule for your writing and sticking to it as it enables you to have an engagement with the audience . It shows a lot of commitment towards your own brand an a talent and it will always come through for you .

4. Bad days

There times you just do not feel like writing at all, but you remember you have a commitment to honor and you just have to. There times I could write but no engagements from the audience ,there times you just don’t want to but you have to. I have never received any backlash in my platform thanks to the degree of positivity in word press but to other writing platforms where negative energy exists you have to develop a mechanism to guard yourself .

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Happy anniversary to me, have a happy week fam😊 . See you next time .

SELF-CARE SKILLS FOR A SKY GIRL

Hey Sky girls, how are we coping this month? I hope we are taking good care of ourselves during this period. Today’s hashtag is# selfcare #selflove. We all love ourselves and take care of ourselves but we shall have a break down of how we can care for ourselves adequately and ways that are simple and easy to achieve. The following are self-care skills that a sky girl can use to achieve self care skills.

Going for a walk regular

Walks are usually miraculous , with headphones on as you listen to your favorite music just takes you to another world. Its actually a stress reliever as then you only have the road and the music with you. You can also reflect on yourself in one of the walks and just imagine the things you want for yourself and work towards them.

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Having a regular sleep routine

Sleep is very essential to the body and having enough sleep is usually an important thing to our lives. With quality sleep we shall be able to bit fatigue and wake up feeling fresh and ready to conquer the world . I know it can be hard to make your body adapt to a new sleeping pattern but with time you shall be able to adapt as long as you stick to the routine.

Have a journal

Do you always have a lot of staff that you want to share with your friends but you just are not comfortable or they are personal staff ? Struggle no more as journaling is here to save the situation. Journaling is an important task as it enables one to write down their aspirations ,their dreams and release other staffs that you do not feel comfortable sharing with people around you.

Have several glasses of water

Water is important to our body as it dehydrates our body and helps as to stay fresh . We should regulate having water regularly during the day. I can share some tips that enables me to stay up with my water game:

  • I have a water bottle that I carry around anytime I go out.
  • I have a glass of warm water when I wake up in the morning.
  • I take water after every meal.
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Exercising regularly

We need to take care of our bodies and one of the ways of taking care of our bodies is my ensuring that we exercise regularly. Exercising helps to activate our bodies and release the waste products that mostly comes out in form of sweat. I probably know the question right now is how do you motivate yourself to exercise regularly ? You can start slowly , like skipping a rope 30 times today then maybe tomorrow you do 50 times and as you progress you shall get used to it and you shall not feel and need of not exercising. Set a goal that you would like to achieve during your exercise period.

Doing the things you love

One way of taking care of yourself is by doing the things you love as it makes you happy and happiness is one thing that is very important in our lives. If you love singing practice a lot to perfect your voice, if you love making tiktoks make them and post them. Of course not everyone will be happy with what you do as there always hater but as long as you do you that is the most important thing in your life. Do what make you happy .

Have a lovely month Sky girls and do not forget to do you as long as it makes you happy.

Moi

As I had mentioned earlier I will be revealing some nitty gritty about myself so this segment is going to be very short .

For no apparent reason😂I just love clay, modelling different things with it just easen my mind. I know right who still uses clay in my age😂😂. I guess it’s only me.

I love modelling blocks with clay this is one of the activity that easens me up and also a stress reliever. I will show you a sample of the blocks I model from time to time

I present to you the might block 😂

Hibiscus

Happy new month fam🤩🤩I can just sense the cool vibes that this month has. So this month I will be celebrating my 1anniversary in wordpress (posting content that is) am super excited for it cause it’s been quite a journey, and I love the growth that has taken place through out it.

If you have been following through you know I rarely talk about myself in my post and hence that’s what we shall be doing for this anniversary month 😂just something special to mark the anniversary ❤️ (hope I have the energy and morale to do so ) I rarely talk about myself😂😂😂I guess it’s among my flaws and we are changing things slowly.

On sunday I had a chilled hibiscus tea in the evening (fyi my taste buds acknowledges only sweet things) so I was abit sceptical on allowing myself to sip some tea but the moment I did I couldn’t imagine myself 😂😂😂without the tea. Maybe it was the fact that it was chilled or maybe my taste buds have adopted to other types of taste. Cause the tea itself was neither bitter not sweet but it had a taste that one couldn’t let go off and will leave you asking for more.

Hibiscus my love ❤️

So am super proud of myself that I was able to try something new cause am always sceptical when it comes to herbal tea to be specific and am equal shocked with the turn of events.

Moral of the story it’s never too late to try new things .

☺️As I start this journey of revealing alittle but of myself what’s that one thing that you always wanted to know about me?

Happy new month once more and have a lovely week☺️

😂😂😂it’s quite relaxing having a glass of hibiscus

CURRENT FAVORITES

Chui my notebook

I call my notebook Chui because of the leopard prints on the cover. I love journaling so much that a notebook is a must have in my life.https://sylelife.wordpress.com/2020/08/26/journalingjournalingjournaling/ The fact that it gives me a place where I can carefully organize and plan out myself its just amazing. The outer cover is also appealing , it gives me the chilled type of vibes the leopards the trees and the color of the cover itself. Chui is my baddie any time am excited , low and having mixed feelings she always has my back. My mum got me Chui last year just as she does with all my other notebooks.

Army my water bottle

I call it Army since the prints on the water bottle are that similar to the army. Anyone who knows me knows how I love to hydrate my body, hydration of the body is very important as it leaves your feeling fresh and reenergized . Army is a double wall insulated bottle to mean that it can keep both hot water hot and cold water cold for up to 6 or more hours. It is made of stainless to mean its very strong and durable. I got it as a gift from a family friend.

My watch

At this point, I know you were expecting my watch to have a name unfortunately it does not. For the longest time, I love wearing watches, I love the way a watch will add more details to your attire. Making you look more elegant and classy and the fact that you can tell the time easily without having to go back and check your phone. It was a gift from my bestfriend, shout out to Janny Jenipher who always pays attention to the small things.

Knotless braids

A special thank you to the inventor of this hairstyle ( I really wish I had like a personal contact just to extend my gratitude😂) I have fallen in love with this braids for real. They are super light on your head regardless of the number of braids you use to plait your hair. It is a protective style since you will not experience any breakage with your hair. Disclaimer they do take a lot of time to fix as it requires a lot of work to be done.

Just figuring it out

Just figuring it out is my podcast that talks about circumnavigating adulthood, the challenges what we did not know of adulthood and many more. I love expressing my self with all the means possible and I always enjoy recording the podcast. Just figuring it out is an amazing journey for me and if you weren’t part of the audience what are you waiting for🤷. Am super excited of what is in store for my listeners so do not miss out.

Chewing gum
Am the hugest fan of chewing gum or should I say my mouth loves chewing😂. It’s just magical how chewing gum can increase your concentration span instantly. I love how super active my brain can get while chewing and if you are looking for ways to concentrate more look no further as the solution is here . My favourite flavor for gum is the chilled type of gum that has a refreshing vibe.

Have a lovely week fan☺️and do not forget to be safe .

Welcome to my world

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where a girl is raped and gets blamed for it, being told that she should have done better to protect herself while the assailant roams free only to inflict the same suffering to another,

Welcome to my world , welcome to my world where a lady who stands her ground and knows what she wants gets labelled as stubborn or undeserving,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where justice is an imaginary flower that only sprouts in our imagination and petals are only existent in movies and stories while the innocent rot away in pathetic jail and guilty walk free of charge,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where pressure to succeed leads to constant failure as time and effort required to change lives ends up being more trouble than its worth,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where respect is given according to the size of your wallet,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where ice-cream is your best confident since it cant judge or announce to the entire world,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where youth face constant criticism and negative comparison to others who are doing better than they while the critique slam all doors when same young people struggle to live up to golden standard by offering services,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world ,

Where you matter ,and only you is responsible for you,

LOVE LANGUAGE

What is your love language? A question people find hard to answer or rather quite intimidating. Everyone has a love a language but in most cases people have not yet identified that this is the way I need to be loved or to be shown love by my significant other . Love language describes how we receive love from others. They are quite an important segment in relationships. Once you learn your partners love language you will be good to go and work on them efficiently. We shall have a look at the 5 different love languages ,how to use them, the pros and cons of each.

1.Words of affirmation

If you love being affirmed on a daily basis ,hearing encouraging words from your partner or even simple compliments from time to time then words of affirmation is your love language. The goodness of having such a partner is that the little things you say will matter to them but you have to be keen with your speech as any negative words will really impact them negatively and even hurt their feelings. With words of affirmation speech is very important and the consistency is also key as the moment you do not affirm them they get insecure.

how affirmed can you be

2.Physical touch

If you enjoy hugging , cuddling , holding hands or any other form of physical touch then this is for you. Physical touch is one of the highest form of intimacy it creates a sense of connectivity between you and your partner. If one has a partner whos love language is touch they at all cost should avoid any form of physical violence as it will impact on their relationship negatively. They should be keen on how they express themselves physically and be consistent on the physical touch.

3.Receiving gifts

Does receiving gifts from your spouse entice you? If it does then this is for you. Gifts are always the most kindest gesture that shows that some really cares about you. Although, most of the times people think that you must get expensive gifts for it to be valuable but the truth of the matter is that it does not just the fact that you remembered that your partner likes jewelry and you brought her that as a gift is such a nice move. You have to be keen with the little things they love or take notice of cause those are the most valuable things they would love for gifts it brings an aspect of a keen listener.

the little gifts do matter

4. Quality time

Engaging in activities together that you both love is one of the ways of spending quality time together . With this type of love language you will need to spare some time for yourselves so as to be able to communicate with each other. Having distant partner with such a love language can be hard to cope with. With such a partner you ought to give them your undivided attention and whenever you are together you have to keep of any form of distraction so as to give them your undivided attention. Communication is key in such a scenario so as to not make your partner feel less important or being least in your priorities.

5.Acts of service

Acts of service literally involve offering a helping hand for the responsibilities your significant other has. Words like can I help you are quite vital in such a relationship . You ought to help them around and at no point should you burden them with work or even lazy around with offering help. With such a partner you can not afford to be lazy or have broken commitments as you will appear to be not to care for your partners feeling .

acts of service

I believe with that we are able to identify our love languages .

Who else feels like having lengthy conversations should part of the love languages?

Have a lovely weekend fam

FINANCES

Managing your finances can be such a task I mean yes you get a certain amount of cash but how are you going to take charge of that money? Management of finances requires a lot of discipline for a person to master the act and its never too late to start managing your finances and never forget that habits are cultivated so the more you practice it the more it becomes easier for you as a person. I have tried the 6 tips for management of finances and I can assure you that they are very practical and habitual activities for one to initiate.

1.)Saving plan

Having a saving plan or even a saving account is very essential . For the longest time saving has been put across as a cumbersome activity , its sort of a burden to many who do not have a clear understanding of what it really means. So what is a saving, saving is setting aside money for future use or for a specific use during specific time. Saving as little as you can is very important as the little things do matter . The only requirement for saving is to have discipline for example you set a certain day ,week or month that you will be saving and stick to the plan. Also to spice up the saving process you can have a saving goal so as to look up to the saving journey that you will partake.

Save as little as you can

2.) Prioritizing your needs

Coming from a shopaholic (where everything is important as long as it strikes your eyes😂) you do need to prioritize your needs together with the budget you have. Most of the times you will find that we go impulse on goods or items we do not really need and we end up going broke for no good reason. We also need to look at some fun activities that at times are not necessary but we still engage in cutting down on such activities will save you some coins. A good method I use is listing down my wants or needs in a hierarchical form from the most important to the least important and at all times it does work magics.

3.)Emergence funds

An emergence fund is some cash that is set aside for the rainy season. Its very important as it enables one to prepare for uncertainties in the near future. Just like savings it requires a high form of discipline and it more so the same concept of saving the only difference is that it prepares you for things you did not plan for to occur. Start an emergence fund you will never be disappointed.

4.) Avoiding debts

Debts usually are a financial set back as it brings your finances forth and back. Living a debt free life is usually important as you get to control and see how your finances are used. In most cases the creditor requires an additional cash as from the one he or she had lent you. Will all you can and your power avoid debts at all costs as they only incur you more and more financial loss unless yes its very necessary.

5.) Chama

Involving yourself in healthy chama is very important as they help in securing your cash. The goodness of this groups is that you are obliged to the members so at the end of the day you will have to honor your pledge and hence you will be saving . There is nothing that is so sweet as receiving your money during your cycle .You also get to interact with different group of people who in one way or another they will have an impact on you.

Unity in togetherness

With this management tips you will be sure to ace your finances.

Have a lovely week fam😊

https://anchor.fm/nadel-kavochi/episodes/Tips-for-taking-charge-of-our-finances-euoimo a podcast on the same topic

The August 7th Park and Museum

The August 7th Park and Museum is a chilled ,relaxed place to be as it is situated in the cbd of Nairobi, Kenya.

The entrance of the park
Fun fact the park is also know as bomb blast park as it was earlier the american embassy that was bombed

A lit bit of history about the park, on August 7th 1988, a group of terrorist used a car bomb to blow up the United States Embassy located at the Moi and Hailey Selassie Avenues causing death of 218 people and the place was later on donated by the Kenyan and American people to a trust charged with turning it into a memorial park as a tribute to the public.

The park itself has various sites and we shall have a look at them.

The Peace Memorial Museum
The museum has different things hanged on the wall, just as a remembrance of the bombing that took place . There’s also a documentary on the events of that specific day that takes one and a half hours.

The Memorial Wall
It commemorates the victims who died and it is a central feature in the park.

The Memorial Wall with the 218names of the victims who died in 1988

Conference facilities and meeting rooms
They have two remarkable conference facilities that can be hired and the each of the two conference facilities have names, the first conference facility to your right is the Wangari Mathai conference center and to your furthest left is the Nelson Mandela conference center. They have various quotes available and the environment is condusive for meetings . To your way out of the museum they have a glass-like structure for donation .

The symbolic landscape
It has stones by the pathway of the park that were collected from the riverbed and it signifies the resilience of the kenyan people to always fight terrorism.

The trees are indigenous to show that people from all over kenya are affected by the tragic act. They also provide a good shade for those relaxing around the park.

The fountain, that was made in the form of the Ying Yang sign, symbolizes the two sides of life ,turbulent and tranquil.

The fountain situated at the centre of the park

The park is a place you would want to relax and just enjoy what nature has to offer be sure to pay a visit when around.

Does looks matter

A couple of days, two influencers tried going to a five star hotel in tattered clothes just to get people’s reaction. To their uttermost surprise no one ever stopped them or even mentioned anything to them. What happened to being your brothers keeper ? How many seconds would it take you just to mention that hey, there something wrong with your … or could rectify this kindly.

Having each other’s back

It took a while before anyone attended to them and the waiters were less concerned . They had to call for a waiter inorder to be attended for and imagine if it was vice versa would it have been the same?

Another story is narrated of a cute guy who stepped on a lady and never bothered to say sorry , he just took off (“throwing a smile to the lady he had stepped on”)

I can only imagine the lady’s facial expression

So what does the society have to say about looks? Does having the look really matter?

In the society we habit in, people tend to judge you with your appearance .Your value is immediately attached to how you appear eg a smartly dressed person is oftenly perceived as rich (definitely how can you dress expensively and be broke 😂)But is this the right mind set?

Supposed the influencers were smartly dressed would they have received the same treatment?It’s high time the society detaches the value of people as per their appearance. We ought to embrace equilty for all regardless of anything #embrace equality

FEMINISM

There is a lot of controversy about feminism currently and today will have a look at what feminism is about in a nutshell. Feminism is a movement that belief in social , economic and political equality of the sexes. The main aim of feminism is to advocate for equal rights for women and acknowledge the fact that both men and women deserve equality in all opportunities, treatment and respect.

Did you know that in Britain 1928 the Suffragettes (first people to begin feminist movement)won their fight as then women were allowed to vote.

Types of feminism

1.) Socialist feminism

This is a movement that calls for an end to capitalist through socialist reformation of the economy . By this I mean that both men and women ought to have equal rights in their workplaces.

2.) Cultural feminism

This is a movement that points out how modern society is hurt by encouraging masculine behavior to reign . A good example is when only the male child was eligible to inheritance of the fathers property or when only the male children we educated.

3.) Liberal feminism

This is a movement that believes all individuals should be free to exposure of equal opportunities and rights.

Misconceptions about feminism

1.) It promotes women superiority

Majority believe that feminism is all about spearheading the women to more authority as they sideline the other gender but the truth of the matter is that feminism is about advocating for equal rights for the women for them to be at per with their male counterparts.

2.) Only women can be feminist

For the longest time feminism has been labelled as a woman thing as they basically advocate for women right but as we can see time is changing as also men are engaging in the advocacy of equal rights.

3.) Feminism and equality are different things

Feminism and equality are both the same as they both advocate for similar treatment regardless of the gender so at no point should they be regarded as different entities.

4.) Feminist hate men

People should get to understand that feminism is not an anti-man movement but rather a movement that is for equality. Feminism has nothing to do with bring men down or rather sidelining them its interest lies with equality for all and nothing much.

Things they don’t tell you about natural hair

Am those kind of people who are in love with their natural hair. It’s been a year and a half since I started my journey with natural hair. To be honest the transition from relaxed to natural hair has been quite a journey of learning and unlearning.

1)Changing of hair products is healthy

It is advisable to always switch up with your hair products be it the shampoo or even the hair oil as this helps to nourish your hair and it gives your hair just that look and body that you require. Personally I use Mikalla and Cantu products for my shampoo, conditioner and treatment , Amla,Blue magic, Coconut oil and Olive oil spray sheen they always work best for me

2) Protective styles
These are hairstyles that protect your hair from too much damage they are hair friendly styles eg we have the mini twists, flat twists and many others later on we shall expound on them

The beauty of mini twist you can always change the hairstyle to your preference

3)Treating your hair
Use if treatment for ones hair is essential as it helps in unclogging the hair follicles, releasing natural conditioning oil , it helps in relieving dry scalp,it removes all those nasty dry flakes, it also stimulates blood flow in the head and neck area so that nutrients can reach the scalp and nourish the hair

4)Trimming your hair once in a while should be mandatory

Trimming of your hair helps your hair to grow heathier because it removes the hair that would split. Hair at the root is also and you’re able to maintain the length and avoid splitting.

The confidence that hair gives you

5)Moisture is a key element
Just like our body that needs to be rehydrated from time to time so is our hair. Our hair requires alot of moisture to keep it hydrated.

THINGS THEY DO NOT TELL YOU ABOUT RELATIONSHIP

Just as I had mentioned earlier we are embarking on a series of things they do not they tell you about as this life we live in is fool of adventures and new things that come our way day in day out and hey there is nor manual addressing life. Today we shall have a look at relationships as it is quite a controversial issue currently as people have different approaches toward it they .

1.) Forgiveness

The fact is that you will have to acquire this virtue as people make mistakes and when a mistake is done it ought to be forgiven. It takes a lot of courage to practice this virtue continuously with no fail.

2.) Picking your struggle

There is absolutely no one who is perfect and complete and hence when in a relationship you should be able to pick your struggle wisely and be able to live with it as every one comes with their own baggage but you should be careful with whatever baggage you allow yourself to carry as toxic ones are not good for you.

3.) Its more about choice than emotions

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By this I mean, there is more to a lasting relationship than just love as love can never be enough for a relationship to last there is trust, support, care and many more . You all have to have the will power of wanting it to work and being able to put your words into actions as actions speak louder than words .

4.) Understanding your significant other

Understanding your significant other character is key as it will reduce misunderstandings in the relationship . Its key to know their temperament as this will enable you to relate with them in different ways and it will explain some of their actions .

5.) Equality

This is key as relationships should be a two way traffic . This deals with questions as why would you not do the same? why is it always me doing this ?

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6.) Knowing your partners love language

Everyone has a love language and mastering your partners love language is very important as you will be able to communicate in the relationship. What is your love language?

Later on we shall have a look at love languages so stick around.

Have a lovely week fam

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WHAT THEY DONT TELL YOU ABOUT RUNNING A BUSINESS

A month ago my pal and I started a jewelry business .I was super excited as jewelry has always been my niche and sharing my love for jewelry with other people of course was yet another level of excitement . Coming to think of it for sure there things we were not prepared for.

1.) What is the most popular item

Being a jewelry business their quite a number of items like rings, necklaces, earing and anklets. Frankly speaking their certain items that tend to sell well compared to others. So tricking that balance ought to be hard at times as this round a certain item sells well the other time another sells well so it needs a lot of strategy.

2.) Losses

You have to prepare for losses like seriously. A lot can happen in the period of selling your goods so you have to be psychologically prepared for the losses even if the chances are very minimal. You can set aside cash that can be used to incur the losses.

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3.) It takes time

Getting involved in jewelry was a strategic plan we had I mean how hard would it be to sell jewelry? But it took time to complete the stock as one we were the fresh face of the business. Developing your brand is a crucial stage in early business as it is much easy to work with a developed brand than a new brand . At this stage some patience will pay as good things do take time.

4.) Stagnation

Of course with your first sales you know who to target you already have customers at your finger tips but as time goes by you exhaust your customers . Leaving you in the dilemma of who to sell to next. In this particular stage the art of networking becomes very important as you have to have sufficient networking skills in order to avoid such a scenario.

5.) Marketing skills

Your marketing skills ought to be topnotch in order to be successful . You must know how to market your goods to the outside world in a way that is appealing to attract many eyes. This include taking quality pictures , proper description of the item , the pricing of the item stated and being systematic in your posting of the pictures.

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6.) Having mentor s in that specific field you are venturing in

Previously in our post we had talked about having mentors in everything we do, but having a mentor who is in the same field is just another level of mentorship as they clearly understand what you are going through, they get to guide you as they tell you the pros and cons of the business . Mentors just act like an eye opener in whatever you are doing. ( my mentorship on business is now available with no fee include😂😂)

You can find our jewelry store in Instagram @ collencollection for quality jewelry or still you can ask for more information in the comment section .

I have begun a series of things they did not tell you about… and your participation will be highly regarded down below on the comment section if you have any topic or thing they did not tell you about that you later on came to found out about in a harsh manner. Have a lovely week.😊

Staying focused on on your goal

Staking out success on your own terms requires some soul searching. To achieve that success, you’ll need to carefully evaluate your current situation and set specific goals.

1.) Know where you’re aiming
You have to have a clear vision of what you want to achieve

What ever you but your mind to you will achieve 😊

2.) Write down your goals
Inscribing our goals in black and white , the subconscious begins to look for opportunities to realize them.

3.)Pay attention to how you write down your goals

Avoid negatives and always be specific as possible as the more specific your goals the clearer your subconscious will be and the more likely you will be able to achieve them.

4) Tell a friend
It always helpful to share with a friend as it enables you to be honest with yourself and its quite helpful whenever you seem that your dream scare you.

5)Create a self development plan

Find out what it takes to reach or to achieve your goal the tools needed or even the financial aspect of your goal

Having a goal is never enough we should clearly have a plan on how to achieve that goal as it makes the goal to be more achieve able or as you can say to be more real.

What are the things you do towards your goal?

Lessons learnt from hardball for women

Business is an aggressive ,pushy sport. You’ve got to get on playing field and show your staff

Hardball for women is a book that teaches women to win in the game of business by Pat Heim though the book in general is quite educative to anyone in the business world or even employed .

Lesson 1:You need mentors
In everything we do , we need someone whose experienced in that field Someone who you can inquire from, some one who you can share your challenges with and they will definitely have a solution for it. In short you need a cheerleader.

Lesson 2: Presentation

The way one presents themselves is very important ie how you dress determines the overall message you send in general , the most important rule of thumb is “Dress for the job you want not the job you are in”

Lesson3: How not to let criticism get into your head
You should first of all recognize that whatever criticism you get is just a person’s opinion about you. Don’t let it get into your head.

Lesson 4: Not taking extra responsibility

This is the mostly experienced with women who lose sight of their goals by taking extra responsibilities. You will have to agree a large percentage of women are virtually responsibility magnets as they fear that if they don’t act on a need it will never be resolved .Sometimes just relax and let others notice that blank space.

Lesson 5 : Success talk or failure talks
How we talk about ourselves shapes others perception of us. So always have positive talks about your self as you are also manifesting good for yourself.

Skills a leader oughts to have

Inorder to lead one oughts to be lead

Great leaders can make leadership look so easy ,they announce a direction and the team eagerly follows. If you have experience in a leadership position for sure you know that that isn’t the case. So today will be looking at skills a leader oughts to have.

1)Directing skills
This enhances a one way communication as the leader presents how he wants the task to be performed and it done its way hences it ensures efficiency is met. This skill is valuable especially when:

a)You need to take charge of a situation.

b)Time is limited
c)No alternatives are possible
d)You must win that particular task or else you whole efforts will be subortage

2)Coaching skills
It enhances a two way communication as the leader is soliciting her juniors ideas and opinions in problem solving yet the ultimate decision still rests on the leader.

3)Supporting skills
The leader works with her juniors , but now allows her to take the lead in determine a plan of action , it emphasis on dialogues as means of communication. It’s quite essential as the junior feels motivated with the responsibility left for them at hand.

4)Delegating skills
In this case a leader gives her junior their own responsibility inorder to see how they can work around to complete the task .This is quite effective in a place where your junior is fully competent and committed to her task atleast for sure you will not be disappointed with the outcome.

What other leadership skills do you think one ought to have?

Have a lovely week😊

Chia seeds

These are multipurpose seeds that have a high nutritive value. Though it may be slimmy but hey it’s worth a trial.

Importance of chia seeds
1.)Good sources of fatty acids such as omega 3.

2.)Low glycemic index food helpful regulation daily blood glucose levels.

3.)Good source of minerals such as calcium, iron, magnesium, manganese and phosphorus.

4.)Good source of protein

5.)Good source of vitamins such as vitamin B, folic acid ,Niacin, Riboflavin and thiamine

How it can be used
a.) In pudding just to add some ingredients and colour to the pudding.

b.)The toasted version can be used in bread, cookies and muffins

c.)It can be sprinkled to youghurt , smoothie and milkshakes.

d.)To thicken sauces and gravies

e.) In hot water.

Hey you can grab a pack at very affordable price at food plus outlets

Dreams from my father

A story of race and inheritance, here we get to see Obama struggling with identity issues through his lifetime wanting to belong

Lessons Barack Obama learnt through his lifetime
1)From his father
Through the story Gramps and Toot told about his father, he learnt that the secret to a man’s success is through his confidence.

Back then his father attended the International Music Festival where he was to perform some african song but he later on found out that the woman who had performed just before him was semiprofessional Hawaiian singer. This didn’t frightened him him as he stood up and sung in front of a big crowd . Courageous isn’t it?

From Lolo
Lolo was his Indonesian step-father though they really didn’t have that stable relationship but atleast Lolo was able to be a father figure then and he didn’t push barack either .”The first thing to remember is how to protect yourself”, “Sometimes you can’t worry about hurt but sometimes you worry only about getting where you have to go ,by this Lolo meant to tell Barack that no matter the circumstances that may come his way he has to push forward.

Chicago
He was 21 right after his studies in Hawaii.He landed an organizing job where by the end if the years he was able to assit the poor and young teenage girls who were mother’s then .He advocated the movement for the Chicago House Authority to remove asbestos from Atgeld’s Management office.

Kenya
He got the sense of belonging that he was quenching for his entire life. It started from the airport when the lady there recognized his name and for the first time it was correctly pronounced he was amazed by this . He finally got to answer all the questions he had in mind and reunited with his family members. He left Kenya feeling fulfilled and with some sense of entitlement.

The humor in this book is too much for you to miss out kindly grab a copy and enjoy the entertainment that comes your way.

Adopting new habits faster

This comes in handy with these month as it is the first month of the year and quite a number of us are working on making their new year’s resolutions fulfilled.Hence, learning on how to adopt new habits faster will be essential towards our new resolution.

1.) Decide what is important and why
What is your motivation for wanting to develop a new habit . Envision the outcome of you don’t make the change.

2.)Giving yourself a timeline
When adopting new habits giving yourself timelines is very important as this will give you more reason to keep on pushing and wanting to achieve your goal.

3.)Make the habit more reasonable

Choose a realistic new habit that you desire and know that you can accomplish and always start small.

4.)Choose one habit at a time
Trying to change several habits at once is too much for anyone. Instead , concentrate on one behaviour change until it becomes a routine then you can add a second one.

5.)Don’t expect perfection

You are bound to slip up one or more times as you work your way towards new behaviour. Be patient with yourself and accept the slip then recommit to new habits.

6.)Be consistent

Consistency is key to establish a new habit . Do the same thing day after day to set it firmly in your mind and routine. Be accountable , either by tracking new habits or chart or interfacing with others.

“Success is a few simple discipline practised every day”,Jim Rohn

Importance of morning routine

Towards the end of the year, we had a new years resolution list and having a classified routine was among them. Today we shall have look at the importance of a morning routine. I personally love having a morning routine as I am more productive in the morning compared to the rest of the day. There’s no specific way for one to have a morning routine as people have different things they would want to do in the morning so anything you chose is always up to you. Here are the importance of a morning routine.

1. It sets the tone
Waking up early or rather at a specific time every morning is said to be good for your health. This helps reduce waking up tired as your body has adjusted to that specific time. Hence, you will always wake up feeling refreshed and ready to conquer the world. With great mornings the chances of having a great day is always on the higher side

Loving or hating the life your living is solely repeated by self talk

2) Becoming the best version of yourself
Having a morning routine ensures that one gets to be super productive .Being productive comes with a sense of feeling accomplished or as others would say unleashing the best version of yourself.

3.)Sets you on track
Waking up daily with a method of maximizing your time is the best thing. You accomplish majority of the things you ought to do on that day hence it keeps you on the right track.

4.) Boosts your mental health

Mental health is something very crucial, we ought to ensure that we have a healthy mental life. Morning routine enables us to be organized and it enables us to perform tasks in an organized manner hence our brains health is boosted as things occurs in an organized manner and there is no pressure to undertake anything .

Happy new year🎉🎉🎉fam hoping this year will unfold alot of good things for us

New year’s resolution

The year is finally coming to an end, definitely everyone is excited to know what 2021 will unfold or aren’t you anxious? Certainly, there’s no new year without a new years resolution whether written or unwritten. Today I offer new years resolution guide , enjoy😊

1.Saving plan
After a rough 2020 with alot of financial strain am quite sure that a saving plan will be your first step. You don’t have to save big, small saving can also help out because what that really matters is the fact that you are able to administer the saving culture in you.

2. Health
Yes your health, a healthy life = happy life. We should watch what we eat, less fats, balanced diet and initiating a good relationship with water preferably 2 litres per day.

3. Reading culture
Establishing a reading culture is very crucial .Reading never ends . Reading activates your brain, it’s also a source of entertainment and ofcourse it expounds your knowledge.

4.Listening to Ted talks
For the past few months I have been a great fan of ted talks. I just love the way people come together to share their life experiences as experience is the best teacher , learning from people’s experience gives you an upper hand in dealing with things .

5. Investing in yourself
If you don’t invest in yourself no one will as sauti sol could have it “Usipojipenda Utapendwa na nani “(if you don’t love yourself noone will)This involves doing things that will benefit you and that would make you happy. You can try travelling, studying a certain course or even purchasing goods that will make you feel good about yourself.

6.Having a routine
Routines are oftenly underrated as they are viewed to be tedious but in real sense routines are good habitual activities that enhances growth in once life be it a morning or a night routine

A special thank you to my wordpress family😊🎉🎉for their support and always sparing time to read through it’s been an awesome year and nice meeting you 🎆🎆 and amazing posts are own their way so always stick around happy new year 🎈🎈

2020 in a nutshell

2020 has been such a nostalgic year.Alot has happened but at the end of the day we are grateful for everything that has come our way.This is how 2020 has been for me.

1) WordPress family

May 19 I started my own blog, the love and support I got from my wordpress family was tremendous.A special thank you to them and also a special thank you to someone special ❤️❤️who pushed me to go ahead.

2.)Skincare routine

Mid June , I begin a skin care routine,hurray!!!I promise you having a skin care routine is the best thing you can do to yourself. It leaves you feeling fullfilled .If you haven’t tried it please give it a trial it worth it.Later on I will be sharing my skin care routine stay tuned.

3.) Learning to let go

Letting go is always important though not an easy task, we do have things that we can’t imagine living without them but dear just let go it’s best for you.

4.)Growth

I have experienced growth in many ways, learning and unlearning habits have been quite a task. We should always have room for growth, correction and enabling ourselves to learn from experience.

Merry Christmas and don’t forget to show acts of kindness during this festive season.🎉🎉

Cimon and Pero tale

The last week the ancient painting that was sold for30 million euros was hitting the headline.Its human nature as the first thing we noticed was the perverseness of the painting in question.I mean how can an old man be suckling such a young lady🤷 but the history behind it is tremendous and very compassionate. Cimon , the poor man was sentenced to death by starvation for stealing a loaf of bread during the reign of Louis XIV in France.

Pero, the woman in the painting was his only daughter and the only visitor allowed to his cell.She was allowed to visit him daily but was frisked such that no food was to be taken in.After 4 months the man was still surviving with no weight loss, the authorities were perplexed and started spying on Pero once she entered the cell They were astonished to find out that she was breastfeeding her father to the fullest sharing her baby’s milk.

Wow!The kind of compassion Pero had for her father .The judges realized Cimon after realizing the compassion Pero had for his father.Its the Christmas season let’s spread our love and the festive mood to those around us. As these historical roman charity story shows the compassion women have. It was easy for pero to breastfeed her child alongside her father but all in all she made it possible. The sacrificial is very significant here. Happy Holidays!!!

Friendship😊

Earlier last week,I was working on a certain project that required assistance from a couple of friends.At first,I wasn’t really sure of my capability to mobilize my friends to perform this task but to my shock the response I got from them was tremendous.

The bottomline was that my friends came through when I needed them the most.Shout to my friends who had my back.

In the current society that we live in,it’s very rare to find people who will stand by you come rain come sunshine, so whenever you come across one kindly stick to them.

It’s always nice to be your brother’s keeper and whenever you can offer a helping hand please do it won’t kill you to do so.

Friends will always have your back😊

How’s the festive season 🎉🎉 coming through??

Watch out for the festive songs in the next blogs😊 let’s all get into the festive mood🎉🎉have a lovely week

Insecurity

In one way or another we get insecure about ourselves.Be it our bodies,our character or even our significant others.Whatever makes you insecure is not necessarily a bid deal for someone else . Coming to think of it, you will find out that you were only insecure for no solid reason and that people in your surrounding don’t even notice your insecurity as the rather see it as a flaw.

So is it human to be insecure?Ofcourse yes, I mean who doesn’t get insecure . But the mist important thing is that we should always learn to overcome our insecurity.

As a person my biggest Insecurity has always been photographs . Yes, photographs 😂 and hence the emergence of me being photophobic.

Am always worried of how am going to look? Is the lightening good enough? Am I smiling sufficiently?but coming to think of it what are you really insecure of.

Happy new month🎉🎉

Self worth

Some days ago as I was checking some insta story I came across a story where by a lady was seeking for advise.She said that she had earlier own forgiven her significant other thrice for cheating and the fourth time he didn’t it again she wasn’t sure of the next move to make🤷. Its a dilemma here, what would you advise her to do?

I am the change the world is looking for

People cheat for various reasons and forgiveness is a gift you can gift your self.But let’s get this straight a person cheats thrice is that really a mistake or is it a habit and at the end of the day someone who loves you can’t cheat on you no matter the circumstances.

This brought me thinking of self worth. What is self worth? Self worth is basically the act of value yourself , knowing what you stand for and how you ought to be treated. Will have to agree in most cases women are more vulnerable in the forgiving. It’s a weakness we were gifted😂 I guess. Many cases like such have occured in the society and hey women are ought to forgive their significant other as it’s “their duty to keep the relationship in touch” but in a case it the other way round the same society will throw stones to the lady in question What a a society!!!

In my opinion in a case where one knows what they stand for and what there value is at no point will it be violated. As I had said earlier let’s love ourselves and treat ourselves right as no one will unless we do it by ourselves .

Have a lovely week my people.😊

Importance of self-love

Self-love!Self-love!Self-love!This phrase is mostly used by our female counterparts,#selflove. But come to thing about it what does this self love mean? Self-love basically is the act of caring for yourself, ensuring that you make yourself happy and not entertaining any negativity or any toxic behaviors.Dont get me wrong there’s always room for failure as long as you get to learn from your breaking point

1.Living a healthy life

A health life comprises of many things good health, positive mind, happiness and many other things. Am quite certain everyone craves for such life.

2.You get to know your self worth

Discovering your self worth us very important . The chances of getting into a toxic relationship is very minimal because you know what you stand for and at no point will you settle for less.

3.You get to appreciate yourself

When you love yourself everything you do will make you happy. This encourages self motivation which is very vital in life . Always take time to appreciate yourself for every little thing as the small things make a big difference.

4.Your relationship get better

There’s no way one can claim to love someone else and yet they don’t practice the same love . Once one has recognized on how to love theirselves then spreading the same love will be an easy task.

Self-love is the easiest for me ,I mean how hard can it be to love yourself?

What does live really feel like

The last black unicorn

The humor in this book😂in deed the author is a comedian.Tiffany haddish narates her life story in this autobiography . Who ever knew that this famous comedian was such an underdog😂I mean she was not doing well in school as she wasn’t able to read and write and she was then the only black girl with “horns on her head” The fact that she had a mother who was mentally challenged and her dad had gone back to Ethiopia when she was kid and most of her childhood she grew up in child support . Here is where she nurtured her talent and upto date she one of the most famous influential comedian in the world .

In deed no dream is too big and everything is achievable as long as your mindset is longing for it.

This book is very interesting 😂be sure to grab a copy.

Happy November😊

Happy new month 🎉 it’s the second last month of the year I know everyone is waiting for the end of the year so that we can close the so called 2020 fatal year but has this year being that disasterious 🤷 .let’s find something to be grateful for the remaining 34days and make something nice from it. A grateful jar will work the trick as you daily state what is making you grateful.

Morning routine will be efficient as mornings that start well will surely end well. Positivity is key in life.

The month of positivity😊

Depression

Just as I had promised today we will look at depression.What is depression?How will you know you are depressed?How will you handle depression?

Depression is real be aware

Depression is a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest . It affects how you feel,think and behave and can lead to variety of emotional.So have you ever been depressed and not know that you are depressed?Yes it does happen and the truth of the matter is that most of us aren’t so knowledgeable about this depression .

Types of depression

Major depression

This is the type of depression where by you feel depressed most of the time.It has characteristics such as loss of interest ,weight loss,insomnia, feeling restless, tired or even worthless.Its remedy include talk therapy and antidepressant. As it is often said a problem shared is a problem half solved.

Persistent depressive disorder

This is depression that lasts for two years or even more.Has characteristics such as change in appetite, sleeping too much or too little, fatigue, low self-esteem and trouble content.Has remedy such as treatment psychotherapy and medication.

Bipolar disorder

It deals with mood episodes that range from extreme high energy with up mood to low depressive periods.This type is greatly common with the old aged.The main source of remedy here is mood stabilizers that contains lithium.

Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder

This is the type of depression that occurs in the start of the period.Wait a minute who knew that women have some kind of depression during their periods🤔. It has characteristics such as moods swings, irritability, anxiety, trouble concentrating, fatigue, change in appetite and feelings of being overwhelmed.

The bottomline is to ensure that we avoid depression at all costs by exercising and have a balanced diet.#depression I real.

When life takes a different turn

Ten year old me had my life perfectly planned.I had pictured myself in a courtroom, the famous lines like “Your honour”, “Yes my Lord” were practised to perfection. For me the courtroom was my residential area (yes I know I was too much😂).I was so ready to protect the rights of women(yes women, anyone who knows me knows that am the world’s most toxic feminist😂)

Back in highschool English and History were my history were my favourite subjects.So for me law was my calling, my passion, my life you name it.Whoever said don’t count your chic’s before they hatch was so right.So did I get to study law?Let’s talk about that.I didn’t, it was so unfortunate things took a different turn.

At this point I was slowly falling into depression, having to fight the fact that I was letting go of what I always wanted to do all because of certain misconception was just killing me.Have you ever won a race but you can’t get hold of the price?Yeah that’s the feeling I had then.

I had never faced depression in my whole life this was just a tip of the iceberg.Like I used to thing that only adults who had alot in their minds who got into depression I mean what will a teenager be depressed about and they haven’t even tasted the real life😂.Did I overcome the depression?Yes I did, with the help of my two close friends who talked me out of it.

Life doesn’t have to take the direction you want it to take.There is always ups and downs and the downs will always drain you,make you feel useless, worthless but just remember that God is not done with you.With time I have come to understand that when you don’t achieve whatsoever goal there is a reason and you ought not to fight with the fact that it is not possible.For we all have purposes in our life’s that we are yet to discover.

What motivates you?Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section .

Next week we will be dealing with depression so stick around.

A special thank you to my wordpress friends for their support.❤️🤞

SERIES Fashion Origins – Hello! So where did all the white bandanas disappear to? (2/4) – Authentikally Ethnic

https://authentikallyethnic.blog/2020/10/13/series-fashion-origins-hello-so-where-did-all-the-white-bandanas-disappear-to-2-4/an extension of what I did last week check him out

Judgement

It’s very normal for human beings to be judgemental ,I guess it’s our nature but should our nature affect other people’s feelings?

Let’s takes for instance Shakila.She has been trending for the past three weeks and we all know the reason.I won’t deny personally I was startled by her deeds(I mean who won’t be at age 19have such body counts)So here we are throwing shades to this young lady,instead of us wanting to know what really happened or what drove her to perform such dubious activities.

Though it’s typical for us humans to always judge even before getting a clear picture of the scenario Why have we normalize this act?Do we deserve the term human beings and yet we aren’t human?When will we change? What will it take for us to normalize the act of us being human?

I personally believe as human beings we should always put ourselves in that person’s shoes before we throw shades to them .This way we will have restrictions on hating people or even being too judgemental.

People do have feelings and at no point should someone make their fellow colleague feel lesser.

So next time before you throw all sorts of judgement to others just take a minute to think about what impact will the judgement give to that person.

#Peoples feeling matter

How to wear a bandana

Bandana!Bandana!Bandana!Wow!just the the mention of this name takes me to cloud 9(if that’s a thing😂)The fact that it can be used by both gender just warms my heart .I have four favourite ways I love to wear my bandana and am so thrilled to be sharing them with you.

Neckband

Do you want to accessories your neck with something classy but simple?Look no further as this plays the trick

Necktie

Everytime I wear my bandana as a necktie,I always get the boss lady feeling.The feeling of entitlement and my confidence is always on another level.

Headband

When you seem to have a bad hair day or your hairline is misbehaving the headband is here to the rescue.You don’t have to worry about your edges everything is under control.

Cowboy

The cowboy looks never grows old.It gives you a sophisticated look that am quite sure a number of you are not willing to throw it away😂.

Focus on the step infront of you and not the whole staircase.

Tried something new hope you loved it!

Fear not☺️

Fear not

What’s fear?Why fear and yet the Lord says fear not for I am with you?Fear is defined as the act of being frightened to do something .I know at some point we all have feared something.At the end of the day it not bad to fear but we should strive to overcome our fears.

Intially ,one of my greatest fear was speaking in public.Just the thought of speaking to a multitude would scare me to death(yes,I might be exaggerating but that fear brought chills to my spine😂)

Few years ago, I was running for a perfect post back in highschool.The electrol process in our school included an open forum.The open forum was such a crucial stage as your competence would be tested there.He I was scared of speaking to a multitude and yet I wanted to be perfect .By now I know you are all Wondering , did she speak and if she did what really happened?Yes I spoke, and I will have to admit as I begin speaking my voice was super shaky but I gained momentum later on(I just had to, as my voice is highly pitched and I had to save myself from the embaracement😩😂)

Lessons learnt from being fearful

1)No fear is too big to be overcomed.

2)The best feeling you can ever have,is the feeling that comes after defeating your fears

3)Fear is nothing but just a feeling that stops you from achieving greatness

4)The acceptance of fear is the beginning of failure

Hey!got some quotes from renown people about fear check them out.

Fear is the main source of superstition and form of cruelty,Betrand Russell

Fear has many eyes and can see things underground,Miguel de Cervantes

The brave man is not he who doesn’t feel afraid but he who conquers that fear,Nelson Mandela

The only thing we have to fear itself,Franklin Delano Rooselvet

CULTURE

4)Morality

Two weeks ago,as I was getting my hair done at the salon,a group of people where having a conversation about children of this milenia.Everytime there is a conversation about this current generation it is always filled with alot of negativity .

Little credits is given to us.Yes,I will not disagree that the level of morality has decreased but is to not our fault .It also has to be noted that things are not the same.The level of exposure today is extremely high compared to the olden days.

We have the internet that airs out everything regardless of the nature of the content.The social media platforms too have impacted on our behaviour.Peolpe are doing all sorts of things not wanting to know the impact they leave to their audience.I blame the internet for not having restriction😂.There things that are not appropriate to the under age but still accessible.

But hey, are we going to blame the internet for everything hell no!!!The internet has also impacted us positively,I mean look at the online jobs,online marketing, online writing and you still want to blame it?It’s high time people stop blaming the internet for the moral decay and they start looking for solution to save us from the direction we are taking.

Who is to blame for the moral decay?

Success is a set up not by accident 😉

Thanks for sticking around☺️ it has been amazing but today will mark the end of our culture journey and stay tuned for the next episodes.

CULTURE

3) Effects of naming

I used to think that effects of naming was an archaic thing.I mean how can you give a child a name and the child inherits all the characteristics of the initial bearer of the name?

As they say seeing is believing but in this case I had to watch to believe.Just recently Kaleyche Mumo was speaking about her experience in engage talk(a show sponsored by safaricom where by successful people narrate their story)So Kaleyche was born to a strict mother ,Ruth Mueni in Kangundo.She was named after her grandmother Kaleyche to mean, she has picked her path let her go.

Her grandmother was a very tough as she was the second wife to her grandfather but she still managed to take charge of the homestead (tough right 😂). Kaleyche didn’t even spare any of that toughness she took it all.

At age 16she knew that she was interested in taking up journalism as a career course.Unfortunate for her ,her mother wasn’t buying that story.She wanted her to do a more serious course just like her elder brothers had done.Due to that she pursued a degree in International relations at USIU.

Later on she got her first job as an office manager for the homeboys dj and after sometime she became an editor for a production house.Although,all a long her mother didn’t approve of her work(hard right to the extent she proclaimed her daughter as unemployed)When one door closes another door opens, she was hired by KissFM to be a news anchor and an editor From that day forward her mother acknowledged her work as her daughter was becoming more and more popular as the days went by.

Kaleyche Mumo ,tough I could imagine but she probably picked her path and followed it.

My culture my pride

CULTURE

2) African Parents

No dream is too big to be achieved

Personally speaking I was brought up by strict parents.By strict parents I mean,there is only one form of punishment (hello canes😂)My mother to be precise was the disciplinarian .Hehe!!I wasn’t naught but for sure I had the test of anything that came her way be it maasai sandals, charger,wooden spoon and any other tool you can name.

At the end of the day it is this uncountable canes that has made me to be who I am today.Although the cane instilled alot of fear in me while growing up but I hate to say that it had a positive impact on me indeed.So today I will be sharing with you one of the most remarkable cane experience I had.

I can vividly remember it was 2009.Then my younger sister was about 9or 10months.A week earlier my mom had bought my baby sister a baby walker so that it could help her move around the house as now she had started moving her body parts. So here I was a eight year old fascinated by how my sister was enjoying herself while on the babywalker.

The voice in my head was urging me to try it, I mean if this little girl is enjoying herself why can’t I also have a test of her own medicine 😂😊.Though after the aftermath I wish someone had warned me earlier.Boom, the babywalker broke(by breaking I mean the lower matish thing that had hooks attached to the babywalker was broken)Me being me, I forced tears out of my eyes just to gain sympathy votes, forgetting the african mother I had.That was that and life had to move on.

Is canning the only way to discipline a child ?Why can’t other forms of punishment be administered.

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