WELCOME TO MY WORLD

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where the first instances of gender biasness is, is it a boy or a girl,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where the boy gets toys that nature him for his responsibility while the girl is given dolls and cooking toys to play with,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where a little boy is not supposed to cry just because his a man while there is room for our baby girl to let down some tears,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where science and mathematics is for boys while girls excel in languages,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where no matter the clothing a man decides to wear it will never send a message to the world while the ladies have to be conscious about what they wear,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where men have the responsibility of making the first moves while the lady is to be on the receiving end as it is “a man’s job to shoot their shot”,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where men are not supposed to cry, they ought to deal with their emotions by themselves while women have liberty for anything,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where a lady is treated differently after conceiving at her workplace cause at the end of the day she will be having her maternal leave,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where a man treats a lady well is regarding as simping,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where in case of child custody the man is left for the financial responsibility ,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where certain courses are segregated for men similar to others for the ladies,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where a man is the one to have financial security/ responsibility, as a man without this is not man enough,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where a daughter has curfew at her parents house but the same does not apply to son,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where a woman who rises to the top of the bar must have done something or even had sexual relation with the boss while the same can not be rumoured about men,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where we are so energetic and vocal when it comes to a rape case involving ladies but when tables turns there is where we draw the line,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where in some industries we still experience gender biasness and no one is willing to talk about it,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where either male or female we have our privileges,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where feminism is the belief social, economic, political equality of sexes not the advocacy of women’s rights only,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world,, where one person can not bring change to the gender inequality in the society but with the help of the society at large the mission will be accomplished,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world, where we are the change we want to implement.

By Kavochi Nadel.

GENDER

c.) Letter to a younger boy and girl

In today’s blog we shall be doing something different from the normal days, a letter to a young boy and girl to cover the various challenges teens or young adults face during this period. I will be partnering with https://techstrapp.com/ just to get the other side of the coin and be sure to check out his website for fantastic tech content.

A letter to a young boy

Confidence

First of all, I know you are shy and have hard time standing up for yourself especially when it comes to fights. As much as violence is not an answer as a man you should learn to toughen up. Do not let anyone walk over you like piece of trash. A rough world is waiting for you out here. Learn to make a stand when someone mistreats you regardless of whatever they are much taller or stronger than you.

Sex

Another thing you are obsessed with sex. First of all, stop thinking that there is something wrong with you, you are a human being. All of us have strong urges to fulfill our sexual desires. Its only a matter of time till you find someone willing to start a healthy sexual life with you . Do not be in a rush.

Relationships

I know you are in a hurry to have someone of your own. You will see all your friends hanging out with other girls , going on dates as you keep questioning whether you are good enough since no one wants you do not worry you are in for a surprise. Love is a great thing, it will come in its own time, you are quite young and most of what you are experiencing right now may seem to be love but most of its lust. Your standards and preference will change as you grow old.

I know you are afraid of approaching girls, do not worry you will grow through multiple rejections and heartbreaks but you will realize that its not the end of the world one day you will finally get that magic you have been waiting for.

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Puberty

Yes the subject you just can not stand, you should realize you are turning into a man and you will have to make that jump from the young boy you are now to a fully grown adult. Your voice will change, you grow taller, stronger, the facial, and pubic hair will also kick in. The acne, sexual attraction are bound to happen, even those embarrassing wed dreams will happen at some point but its all part and parcel of growing up.

Finances

You are a broke kid that is for sure, fully dependent on your parents and quite worried if that is how it will always be. Learn new skills that are marketable since that is what will land you your first job and help you earn something to get you going before you level up. Even those fancy dates you wish to go with your girl are bound to happen just keep on grinding and good things will happen.

A letter to a young girl

Puberty

When puberty bells rings, new things will unleash that will change your lifestyle . We have the enlargement of breasts that may seem a little bit off at the beginning , no need to put on sweaters just to cover up the growth it okay nothing is wrong with you , you just have to embrace the change. We have occurrence of periods, the first time you spot it do not freak out because it is going to be the new norm until you get to your menopause. No need to hide your sanitary towels or feel shy to talk about periods its so normal. None will prepare you for the cramps that will unleash during this period of the month, the headaches and at times vomit that comes as a result of menstruating. Be sure that this is just a phase that will come to pass.

Standing up for yourself

At this age and time your confidence has not yet leveled up to be honest. You still fear certain people in the society just because you still do not have a voice and you are afraid of the outcome that may come as a a result of standing up for yourself. Your are stronger than you can imagine , you have a voice that is waiting for you to unleash it. SPEAK UP GIRL!!! No one will kill you for speaking up baby girl. Sexual harassment may come your way once in a while, no one will equip you with the right tools to deal with it but your voice will save you baby girl.

Friendship

You will meet different types of friends in this phase good ones, dishonest ones and just friends who are seasonal ones .Be prepared to lose friends in this period as you are growing because in each growing phase you need new friends .You will meet new people and form new bonds some even stronger than what you originally had. Some people you meet will be the best thing that could happen to you and others will be the worst you ever met. In this stage you will have couple of guy friends some genuine some not genuine and to be honest it is really hard to distinguish from the two but whatever happens do not build a wall towards male friendships.

Relationships

Relax baby girl this is just your first relationship do not start romanticize a family in this stage, you still have to experience life as a whole and what it has to offer . Heartbreaks will be there my dear but do not let that get into your head, you have to rise up and heal after a break up. Its okay to be ghosted , there is nothing new about it you just have to move on with life as that is not the end of life. Never be scared to give your 100% in a relationship just because you were hurt in the previous one, the person who hurt you did not deserve you nonetheless give this new relationship your all.

Have a lovely week fam, 😊feel free to add as you interact with me in the comment section.

GENDER

b. Privilege

Have you ever thought why you receive certain types of benefits or advantages that are out of your control ? Or do you wonder why you experience a certain type of advantage? Wonder no more as today we shall have a look at privileges one has as per their gender.

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What is privilege?

Privilege is basically the benefits that belong to people because they fit into specific social group or and advantage that is out of control.

Male privileges

They can be confident that nobody would think they got the job or a certain grade because of their sex.

A couple of times we see ladies raising at the top of the bars and once in a while you will hear few remarks that she got that job just because of something she did while that is never the case when it is a man who has been promoted.

They are less likely to face sexual harassment

Yes , they are less likely to face sexual harassment due to the environment they live in. Male figures are protected I mean, have you ever heard a man who fears spending time with a friend just because he does not know what might unfold ?

It is possible for them to choose clothes that does not send any particular message to the world

Men have a freedom to wear what they want without being condemned with the society.

They can be aggressive with no fear of being called a bitch or they can be loud with no fear of being called a shrew

The freedom of speech and expression is one that is very inclusive, I mean you do not have to filter anything in your speech.

Them having children will not affect their career

The term paternity leave is not that common I mean a man would take one or two weeks off after that they go back to work and yes in order for them to provide for the family but to be honest their lives move on unlike their female counterparts who will have to re adjust.

FEMALE PRIVILEGES

They are given first priority once in a while

Several times in the matatu am given priority when it’s full, I mean let the lady have a sit and of course in several areas too I have the advantage over my male counterparts.

Dowry

Its the lady’s family who receive the token of appreciation and that is the way culture is but still that is a privilege I would love to experience.

If a female is assaulted people will be outraged while the same cant really be said so

I remember 2 instances that occurred at the same time one, several ladies were sexual assaulted and the outrage was tremendous while the second instance a man was assault but not much was looked into it.

Happy week fam , feel free to drop in the comment section the privileges you have experienced as per your gender.

GENDER

Gender is basically being male or female, the first instance that we meet for gender always is it at the gender reveal for the baby , is it a boy or a girl and basically the segregation that occurs as per your gender. For the month of September we shall have a look at gender in different areas in our lives.

You are either male or female

1. Society

The society at large has different ways of handling issues related to gender in various ways.

a.) Dress code
I remember when the campaign of #my dress my choice was quite eloquent when women were told to have decent clothes on in order to prevent the rape cases that were becoming rampant in the country then. To be frank, in such a case dress code has less to contribute towards it , decent or without decent clothing one may be a victim cause at the end of the day it’s not a matter of what you wear but it’s a matter of the level of self control or the behavior of the person.

Earlier last week I was listening to some conversation in the radio where a lady called and said that women are to be blamed for proscumity in people’s marriage because how a lady dresses will contribute to the attention she gets when she’s out there, but honestly speaking you can tell me not to wear a dress that is slight below the knees just because person will look at you. Why is it that there is a lot of responsibility when it comes to ladies dress code while for the men are let to roam around with shirtless chest and sagged trousers.

b.) Courses

I remember just when I started university a while back and of course people were asking me the course I was pursuing in varsity. Everytime I mentioned my course, the response I got always took me by surprise , like really that what you think🤔. They would always say, ” Unafanya Course ya Wanaume”( Are you pursing men’s course) This always left me wandering since when we’re courses branded as male or female courses.

Even in the work fields there are different types of treatments depending on the field you are in. Earlier on this year as I was reading ‘hardball for women’, one of the ladies mentioned that she was in a male dominated field and was often segregated with her colleagues.

As a society we should strive to eradicate all the gender biasness that occurs in our midst in order to create a society that is free from any gender issue #eradication gender biasness

TEMPERAMENTS

Couple of weeks ago, I passed through a route I normally pass with my mum but this specific day I was not with my mum. The route has a car wash, so on this Sunday one of the men who works in the car wash asked, ‘ leo umewacha mama’ were the exact words he used( where is your mum today)I was astonished because honestly speaking I was not expecting him to have noticed the fact that I walk with my mum occasionally in that route. It ignited some thoughts in mind that people are watching and they will forever analysis how you carry yourself while you are out here so you should always be conscious about how you carry yourself out.

That aside, today I wanted to look at temperaments. Why temperaments? It is important that we understand the different types of temperaments so that we shall be able to accommodate each other and understand why someone is acting the way they are acting or the way they behave.

What is a temperament

Temperament is a persons nature especially as it is permanently affects their behaviour

How many temperament are there

There are 4 types of temperaments that exists, we have the sanguine, phlegmatic, choleric and melancholic. The sanguine and phlegmatic are extroverts while the choleric and melancholic are introverts

Sanguine

They are people oriented and are very optimistic.

Strengths of sanguine

  1. Leadership skills
  2. Carefree
  3. Lively
  4. Easy going
  5. Sociable

Weakness of sanguine

  1. Disorganized
  2. Talkative hence they do not listen
  3. Easily distracted
  4. Undisciplined
  5. They decided based on their feelings

Phlegmatic

They are sympathetic and they care about others.

Strength of phlegmatic

They are calm

They are reliable

They are thoughtful

They are peaceful

They are even-tempered

Weakness of phlegmatic

They are shy

They are fearful

They are not goal oriented

They are unenthusiastic

Choleric

These type of people are bad tempered or irritable.

Strengths of choleric

They are active

They are optimistic

They are aggresive

They are restless

Weakness of choleric

They are inflexible/ unreliable

They are rude

They are impatient

They are unable to relax

Melancholic

They express pensive sadness most of the time

Strengths of melancholic

They are quiet

They are unsociable

They are pessimistic

They are sober

They are rigid

Weakness of melancholic

They are fearful

They are depressed

They are too cautious

They are pessimistic

NB: The above information is as per research, not my own thinking.

What temperament do you exhibit?

FIRSTBORN CHRONICLES

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where being a firstborn is more of a curse than a blessing,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where all the responsibility of your siblings is automatically handed to you, I mean at the end of the day you are a firstborn,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where are expected to take charge you get caught up in being a role model to your siblings,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where as a firstborn you are not supposed to shed a tear, you ought to embrace courage, swallow your hurt and take care of yourself,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where as a co-parent as early as your siblings are born you ought to embrace the role and adjust as fast as possible,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where your own flesh and blood do not understand why you are harsh and the things you do just to take charge of the household,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where everyone has expectations of you, you always have to be at your best performance/ behaviour, always shine as you are a role model( a position you did not apply for but as per the virtue of your birth position in your family)

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where as a firstborn you always have to have solutions for everything in the house,

Welcome to my world, welcome world where I love being a firstborn, I love the responsibility that comes with it,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where I love the fact that my parents entrusted me with the responsibility of looking after my siblings and taking charge in the house,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where I am a role model that my siblings are looking up to, I am a source of encouragement, I am the backbone of my parents children,

Welcome to my world , welcome to my world where I am a firstborn who does not have things in control, I do not have the solutions to every problem but I am still a firstborn, me not knowing certain things does not deprive me from my rights as a firstborn,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where being a firstborn is a blessing in disguise and given a chance I will still be a firstborn,

LESSONS LEARNT OVER THE YEAR

Hey fam, welcome back to sylelife a place were we learn a lot ,have fun and just live life to the fullest (cant believe that am making an introduction today) but what do we say , new age new beginnings . This week am turning …age(ladies do not tell their age out loud). Last year, I started a culture/ tradition of sharing lessons I have learnt during the year, in my birthday week .

Lesson 1: Having confidence in myself

My mum always says how from a tender age I have always had the highest confidence anyone could have, growing up I never suffered with issues to deal with confidence( though most of the people automatically assume my silent nature to come with lack of confidence ) but I have never suffered from lack of confidence. I have always gone for what I want but to be honest, I took me time to start my podcast, I was sure of myself. Was I going to pull this through? Did I have enough content to sustain a podcast? All the imposter syndrome one can have I had. The minute I started my podcast, I knew from then I could do anything I but my mind to.

If confidence was a personPhoto by Israelzin Oliveira on Pexels.com

Lesson 2: Its okay to relax

I am a workaholic, I love occupying myself with tasks during day, I just can not wake up and decide to do nothing for that day. But I have been able to unlearn that trait and if I wake up not feeling like accomplishing anything for that day I just allow myself to rest and enjoy the day without having guilt or thinking that I have wasted it . Rest is very important and we should give our bodies a break once in a while.

Lesson 3: Its okay not to achieve what you had planned

Anyone who knows me , know how I am an extremist when it comes to planning, everything I do will always have a plan(its that bad)but it has taken a lot of me accepting that not everything will go as planned and it is okay if it does not . At no point will that make me a failure.

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Lesson 4: The act of being grateful for everything

In the kind of life we live we are always caught up with a lot of things to the point that we hardly recognise the small things that could or should lighten up our lives. This year I started a habit of being grateful on my journal chui( my word press family have certainly met chui)and I will say with a lot of confidence that it has been a game changer in my life. You get to appreciate the little you have and also appreciate yourself with the achievements you get to achieve in your life.( I have an episode @ Just figuring it out my podcast that talks about the benefits of gratitude)

THE NAIROBI ARBORETUM

The Nairobi arboretum is a cool place to be, I love the ambiance in this place , the natural habit , the trees and the wild animals there. It was established in 1907 by Mr Batiscombe a British colonial administrator so as to introduce exotic tree species in Kenya. Its size is 30.4 hectares. The forestry department is in charge of Arboretum , you will see the officials in the park itself. It is located along statehouse road in area of Kilimani, Nairobi Kenya.

Just me chilling in arboretum

Activities that can take place in the park

Photos from http://www.kenyaforestorganisation
  • Photoshoots- the environment is quite conducive, the trees ,the walk path it gives you the nature type of vibe.
  • Jogging- the footpath is quite something else, you can jog around the place and the weather itself is fear enough.
  • Hiking- there is a hiking path in the park itself.
  • Recording of music videos- there is enough space for recording of music videos though it comes at a price to record the music in the place.
  • Praying center- the environment is quite serene for prayers , I saw a couple of people holding prayers together.
  • Team buildings- you can also carry out team buidings in the area
  • Picnics- the grass is green, there are trees and the air is very fresh its quite an ideal place for picnics .
  • Things to note before going there
  • They open from 6.00am to 6.00pm everyday, even during the weekends
  • They do not allow plastic bottles inside the park, you will be force to leave it at their offices.
  • They do not allow alcohol inside the park.
  • The entrance fee goes for Ksh 65 for adults and Ksh 20 for children under the age of 12.
A map from Google maps that enables you to get your way through the place

RANDOM QUESTIONS

One of the easiest way to start a conversation with anyone and not seem or look awkward is by asking random questions trust me it works. I am an ambivert and one of the hardest thing for me to do is to start conversations with strangers but trust me when I gain the familiarity with the person I can get hold of long conversations even longer than you expected. So today we shall have a look at random questions that will enable you to get to know someone’s like, dislikes and characters just from the answers they give.

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  1. If you had the world attention for 30 seconds what would you say
  2. Would you rather be a hero or a villain in a day
  3. If you had to work but nit get money from what you do, what would you do
  4. Where do you mind not waiting
  5. If you could create your own job title what would it be
  6. Would you rather look like a potato or feel like a potato
  7. If you could disinvent something what would that be
  8. Favourite app
  9. What would you rather throw away love or money
  10. What talent would you want to posses
  11. If you could only use one word for the rest of your life what world would you choose
  12. If you have been give an elephant for a day what would you do with it
  13. If you were to play a song you love right now what would that be
  14. If you were to name you own song , what would you name it
  15. What would you learn about life from kids
  16. How would you want to be remembered
  17. If you could have any super power which one would you choose
  18. Would you rather be able to control time or be able to know what other people are thinking
  19. Would you rather be able to copy and paste in real life or to undo in real life
  20. What is the quality that you enjoy most in friends
  21. What is the common thing that you think about when you are alone
  22. Describe your life using one word
  23. Have you ever cried over a movie
  24. If you could run one business which business could it be
  25. Best part of waking up
  26. What one food would you never give up
  27. What would be harder for you, telling someone you love them or telling them you do not love them
  28. When you are 90 years old what will matter to you the most
  29. Do you have a special place you love to visit regularly
  30. What is the reason why you are grateful in your life.
  31. Happy new week fam, hope you are keeping safe this week, last week I was watching some several episodes of the Shark tank( it is a show that entrepreneur showcase their products in search of sponsors or partners for their business) It is a nice show for entrepreneurs as it exposes one to a lot of negotiations skills .
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REVIEW OF GO PRO

The book of the month is Go pro by Eric Worre one of the most famous renowned network market as the book itself gives several steps of becoming a network marketing professional.

The definition of network marketing as per Investopedia is business model that depend on person to person sales by independent representatives often working from home.

My interest for Network Marketing

I have been studying the trend and digging in through network marketing simplify because I love the job description in this field . I love the fact that you can interact with everyone from anywhere in the world which is an added advantage come to think of it during this covid time as their is restriction towards travelling. I also love the fact that you get to work at your own pace, own time and set your rules for yourself, basically you get to become your own boss. I mean who would not want to. Lastly, the fact that your job security lies in your hands as Eric Worre favorite quotes is You are incharge of yourself. You fail its failure, You succeed it is your success. I will go straight into the skills in becoming a network manager.

1.Finding prospects

Prospects is a networking term for a customer. For any business person, you know how hard it can get in terms of customers, getting someone to approve your product and purchase is another merry go around and especially when it comes to network marketing you have to have patience and stamina to filter out rejection in this field as Eric loves saying ‘You must accept a temporary loss of selfesteem from ignorant people’ In this case you ought to make a list of potential prospects and always update from time to time as you work on it.

2. Inviting prospects to understand your product or opportunity

In this case ,you can use any media platform or material like DVDs, CDs and thanks to technology we have zoom meetings that have eased up things, and let your prospects understand what you are dealing with ‘Your ability to get a large group of people to consistently to do a few simple things over an extended period of time . NB You must detach yourself from the outcome.

3. Presentation of your product / opportunity to your prospects

In order to get started with your presentation , you ought to give a little background about yourself to get the people to relate with the information you are giving. Two you have talk about the things you did not like about your background and three how network marketing came to your rescue.

4. Following up your prospects

Quite a difficult step to take as of course you do not want to be a bother and the same time you have to make a follow up to see how you progressing with your prospects. The words and tone you use is really important.

Have a lovely week fam.

TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

Last week in my podcast ‘Just figuring it out’ I had a guest over and we navigated through toxic relationships and I thought why not share it with my wordpress family( very soon I shall be getting you name, just watch this pace) and you are also welcome to be part of ‘ Just figuring it out family’. We chose this topic because its an emerging issue in the society and we just realized that majority of people are in toxic relationships its just that they never know that and hence the emergence of the topic today.

Can we guess what they are arguing about? Photo by Anthony Shkraba on Pexels.com

What is a toxic relationship?

A toxic relationship is a relationship between people who do not support each other , one seeks to undermine the other and most probably one does not have a voice or an opinion in a relationship.

How do you recognize that you are in a toxic relationship?

  1. When your significant other has controlling behaviors ; he/ she always wants to tell you what to do at any given time and is offended when you dismiss whatever he has told you.
  2. Hostile communication from your partner; you rarely communicate with your partner and when you do your partner is very rude and is not accomodative towards the conversation.
  3. If your relationship entails a situation where there is all take and no give; in the relationship there is one person who is doing the giving and the other person is just taking and not reciprocating the same love that is given. In most cases your partner is selfish and he/ she only wants what is best for them not the relationship.
  4. You make excuses for their behaviors ; whenever they are wrong you always convince yourself that maybe you are the problem or they just did not know but in real sense you know whatever they have done they did it knowingly but you just want to protect them to keep the relationship going.
  5. They do not respect you; respect is something that is paramount I mean how will you claim to love somebody and yet you will not show them respect that is pure mediocracy.

Can a toxic relationship change into a healthy relationship?

Personally I believe everything is possible as long as you put your mind to it so yes a toxic relationship can change into a healthy relationship as long as the both of you are willing to give it a try together.

But let us also think of it this way , once you squeeze a flower you can not get the petals back into their original position( got that narrative from this series am currently watching Jane the virgin as Abuela loves using it and if you have not watched it what are you waiting for)

it makes sense now so can we fix the issue.Photo by Anthony Shkraba on Pexels.com

How to overcome the aftermath of a toxic relationship

  1. Surround yourself with positive people; your environment can really influence you so at all times ensure that you stick around to people with positive vies its always a life saver at all times.
  2. Practice selfcare; once you learn how to love yourself you will have the understanding of what is love and how to be loved seems like and that will set a standard on what you will accept as love not just accepting the bear minimum .
  3. Talk about your feeling to someone you trust; they always say a problem shared is a problem half solved , expressing your feeling about the situation enables you to get the issue out of your system and trust me you will feel good after talking about it.
  4. Do not victimize yourself but instead view yourself as a strong individual ; it is not your fault that things did not work out we just have to get up and continue living as that not the end of life.
The biggest steps you can make in life is finally agreeing to leave that toxic relatioshipPhOto by Dziana Hasanbekava on Pexels.com

Have a nice week fam, 😊keep safe and do not forget to interact with me in the comment section see you next time

BAOBOX

Last Saturday, I had a visit to Baobox, a restaurant based in Westlands , the street is westlands road 8th floor in Pramukh towers with my friends just to relax and to easen up( quite a healthy practise ). Baobox is a premier board game cafe in East and Central Africa that focuses on creating something unique exempting technology through their games. Today I will give the things I love about the place and you should visit when you have a chance.

The entrance to baobox
Photos from baobox.com

1.The environment

I love the environment in the restaurant ,the furniture itself is indigenous, made of wood and maasai shukas in the couch .I love the fact that the spaces is quite enough as they have like a group type of space and I would recommend such a space for events like birthday parties. They have a section where they place their board games is quite tremendous and organized. The restaurant has a nice ambience with a rooftop that is good for taking photographs.

The indeginius furniture in baobox from the rooftops
Photo from baobox.com

2. The food

Wow is enough to describe the pizza we had there , I could literally feel the ingredients in the pizaa. What I loved most was the fact that the base of the pizza was very flat yet appealing to the audience. We had the Banker pizza that consists of a standard with ground beef, meaty beef sausage, bacon, mushroom, caramlesed onions and BBQ sauce.

3.The games

They have a variety of games but I will just mention the few we were able to play.

The games stand
Photo from baobox.com

a. Hot seat

It consists of several cards that have quite intruding questions the kind of questions that never have I ever have that at times are quite embarrasing to answer in public .

b. Singing game

It consists of several cards that have 2 songs each with 3 marks with the songs and the artists names that the participants ought to sing it and they are awarded marks. What I love about this games was the fact that it was promoting the Kenyan music which is a good way to go.

c. Jenga

This is a physical skill game that players take turns removing one block at a time from a tower constructed of 54 blocks. Each block removed is then placed on top of the tower, creating a progressively more unstable structure .

The Jenga game

d. Vote

It is played with a couple of friends, there are questions and you get to choose/ vote who is most likely to do whatever is on the question. What I loved about it was the fact that you get an overview of what your friends think of you.

The vote game in abox

e. Mind game

This is a board game that tests your memory and your memorizing power. There are 12 different things positioned on the board and you ought to memorize the position of the things hence it juggles your brains.

To play unlimited games they charge 1000 Kenyan shillings.

I loved this place to be honest , I had a nice time you can visit once in a while whenever you are free.

How the Jenga game is played

Have a lovely week and see you next Tuesday.☺️

BHAJIA RECIPE

Once in a while I love cooking exotic meals , and I thought why not share some of my recipes with my wordpress family. A little history about my cooking skills, I hate cooking for a fact ( cant believe I said that aloud 😂), not that much but there times I do feel like cooking and the few times I do be rest assure for something epic ( of course being brought up with a chef why would I not acquire the most amazing cooking skills.)

Ingredients

  1. Wheat flour
  2. Salt ( to your satisfaction)
  3. Tumeric
  4. Cumin seeds
  5. Coriander
  6. Sliced potatoes( as per the quantity you want to cook)
  7. Chillies
  8. Eggs
  9. Cooking oil

Method

  1. In a bowl, mix the flour together with the spices; the salt to add flavour to the bhajia, tumeric to give the bhajia the yellow colour, cumin seeds for some taste and the chillies, add the coriander in the mixture evenly to ensure that the whole mixture has been mixed well.
  2. In the mixture, depending with the quantity of the flour in the bowl , you should beat an egg or eggs as you mix with the mixture ( NB ensure that the mixture is thick)
  3. Add the potatoes to the mixture , as you ensure that both sides of the potatoes is covered with the mixture.
  4. In a pan, heat it with oil for about 15 minutes .
  5. Put the potatoes in the heated pan, you can cook the potatoes at intervals of approximately 7 minutes.
What a lovely snack🤩

You can serve the bhajia with soup or sauce of your choice.

MY SKINCARE ROUTINE

It does not matter with your age ,but a skincare routine is mandatory as why not love your skin. Its been 10 months since I started this journey of skin care and am quite pleased with the results as it took time because I had a face that had acne for quite some time. We shall have a look at the 3 products that have been effective in the routine.

a. ) My Siri black soap

Basically this soap is used to wash\cleanse your face( can also be used for bathing) I wash my face twice in a day, one early in the morning when I wake up and in the evening when am heading to bed. I do this because during the day our body collects a lot of dust from the atmosphere and going to bed with it is just damaging your skin for no good reason. I use my Siri black soap, pineapple flavor to be precise and the scent it has is just magical.

Ingredients

Vegetable oil, coconut husk, herbal extract, fragrance and aqua.

Usage

Scoop from a jar, gentle rub the soap in your palm with some water for it to lather and apply on your face gentle as you massage.

Benefits of the black soap

  1. Its anti bacterial and anti fungal .

2.It helps exfoliate the skin.

3. It improves skin texture.

4. It helps attain an even skin tone.

5. It helps fight acne and to reduce fine lines.

b.) Marie Shea and coco butter

This is body oil that has natural ingredients and also acts as a moisturizer .

Ingredients

Organic shea butter, cocoa butter, essential oils, moringa and blackseed.

Usage

Take the shea butter and put on your palm rub it then apply to whichever area of body .

Benefits

Helps clear stretch marks , blackspots and skin blemish.

Moisturize soften the skin.

It helps skin glow naturally.

c.) Powder mask\ Quasil

I mask my face twice a week as its healthy for the skin.

Ingredients

Tumeric that treats eczema, anti inflammatory ( property substance treatment reduce inflammation) and it is anti bacterial.

Quasil that contains anti oxidants, anti inflammatory components treat acne, get rid of dead skin cells and nourishing the skin.

Sandadwood originates from sandadwood Santalum genus , it has the ability to moisturize the skin and exfoliate the skin.

Liwa powder that is effective in soaking excess oil and sebum from the skin and it is the remedy that gives clear skin.

The main reason why I always love these 3 products is the fact that they are made out of natural components hence has no effect on the skin.

Have a lovely weekend fam.😊

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY

Tomorrow , I will be celebrating my first anniversary in word press and as a blogger , am super excited about it . I have really come a long way, looking at my previous posts and the recent one’s there is a huge difference in the appearance, the type of content I posted, the audience engagement and the length.

A little history about my blog, I started it after a friend of mine emboldened me to start a blog though I was hesitant about that idea but here we are , my favorite activity of my week. I have always loved writing for ages though It was very lowkey , I used to do a lot of poems back then and a few articles here and there but my passion increased the moment I started my blog as I had that commitment towards it. I will briefly look into lessons I have learnt during this writing journey.

1.Discipline

Discipline for me is basically sticking to something you believe in whether it works or not but you religious do it every time. I have had to learn the art of being discipline in my consistency and it has definitely worked for me because with time it becomes a habit and you no longer have to struggle with I have to write.

2. Patience

One of the virtue I have had to learn during this period is patience , personally am an impatient person but in order to perfect your skill you have to trust the process and be patient with yourself . I remember my first posts I really didn’t have an audience engagement It took time to gain an engagement but it was worth the time. A piece of advise good things take time so you have to be patient.

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3. Consistency

In building anything you believe in be it writing, singing or any other talent you have to have consistency to prosper . In my field of writing its quite important to have schedule for your writing and sticking to it as it enables you to have an engagement with the audience . It shows a lot of commitment towards your own brand an a talent and it will always come through for you .

4. Bad days

There times you just do not feel like writing at all, but you remember you have a commitment to honor and you just have to. There times I could write but no engagements from the audience ,there times you just don’t want to but you have to. I have never received any backlash in my platform thanks to the degree of positivity in word press but to other writing platforms where negative energy exists you have to develop a mechanism to guard yourself .

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Happy anniversary to me, have a happy week fam😊 . See you next time .

SELF-CARE SKILLS FOR A SKY GIRL

Hey Sky girls, how are we coping this month? I hope we are taking good care of ourselves during this period. Today’s hashtag is# selfcare #selflove. We all love ourselves and take care of ourselves but we shall have a break down of how we can care for ourselves adequately and ways that are simple and easy to achieve. The following are self-care skills that a sky girl can use to achieve self care skills.

Going for a walk regular

Walks are usually miraculous , with headphones on as you listen to your favorite music just takes you to another world. Its actually a stress reliever as then you only have the road and the music with you. You can also reflect on yourself in one of the walks and just imagine the things you want for yourself and work towards them.

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Having a regular sleep routine

Sleep is very essential to the body and having enough sleep is usually an important thing to our lives. With quality sleep we shall be able to bit fatigue and wake up feeling fresh and ready to conquer the world . I know it can be hard to make your body adapt to a new sleeping pattern but with time you shall be able to adapt as long as you stick to the routine.

Have a journal

Do you always have a lot of staff that you want to share with your friends but you just are not comfortable or they are personal staff ? Struggle no more as journaling is here to save the situation. Journaling is an important task as it enables one to write down their aspirations ,their dreams and release other staffs that you do not feel comfortable sharing with people around you.

Have several glasses of water

Water is important to our body as it dehydrates our body and helps as to stay fresh . We should regulate having water regularly during the day. I can share some tips that enables me to stay up with my water game:

  • I have a water bottle that I carry around anytime I go out.
  • I have a glass of warm water when I wake up in the morning.
  • I take water after every meal.
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Exercising regularly

We need to take care of our bodies and one of the ways of taking care of our bodies is my ensuring that we exercise regularly. Exercising helps to activate our bodies and release the waste products that mostly comes out in form of sweat. I probably know the question right now is how do you motivate yourself to exercise regularly ? You can start slowly , like skipping a rope 30 times today then maybe tomorrow you do 50 times and as you progress you shall get used to it and you shall not feel and need of not exercising. Set a goal that you would like to achieve during your exercise period.

Doing the things you love

One way of taking care of yourself is by doing the things you love as it makes you happy and happiness is one thing that is very important in our lives. If you love singing practice a lot to perfect your voice, if you love making tiktoks make them and post them. Of course not everyone will be happy with what you do as there always hater but as long as you do you that is the most important thing in your life. Do what make you happy .

Have a lovely month Sky girls and do not forget to do you as long as it makes you happy.

Moi

As I had mentioned earlier I will be revealing some nitty gritty about myself so this segment is going to be very short .

For no apparent reason😂I just love clay, modelling different things with it just easen my mind. I know right who still uses clay in my age😂😂. I guess it’s only me.

I love modelling blocks with clay this is one of the activity that easens me up and also a stress reliever. I will show you a sample of the blocks I model from time to time

I present to you the might block 😂

Hibiscus

Happy new month fam🤩🤩I can just sense the cool vibes that this month has. So this month I will be celebrating my 1anniversary in wordpress (posting content that is) am super excited for it cause it’s been quite a journey, and I love the growth that has taken place through out it.

If you have been following through you know I rarely talk about myself in my post and hence that’s what we shall be doing for this anniversary month 😂just something special to mark the anniversary ❤️ (hope I have the energy and morale to do so ) I rarely talk about myself😂😂😂I guess it’s among my flaws and we are changing things slowly.

On sunday I had a chilled hibiscus tea in the evening (fyi my taste buds acknowledges only sweet things) so I was abit sceptical on allowing myself to sip some tea but the moment I did I couldn’t imagine myself 😂😂😂without the tea. Maybe it was the fact that it was chilled or maybe my taste buds have adopted to other types of taste. Cause the tea itself was neither bitter not sweet but it had a taste that one couldn’t let go off and will leave you asking for more.

Hibiscus my love ❤️

So am super proud of myself that I was able to try something new cause am always sceptical when it comes to herbal tea to be specific and am equal shocked with the turn of events.

Moral of the story it’s never too late to try new things .

☺️As I start this journey of revealing alittle but of myself what’s that one thing that you always wanted to know about me?

Happy new month once more and have a lovely week☺️

😂😂😂it’s quite relaxing having a glass of hibiscus

CURRENT FAVORITES

Chui my notebook

I call my notebook Chui because of the leopard prints on the cover. I love journaling so much that a notebook is a must have in my life.https://sylelife.wordpress.com/2020/08/26/journalingjournalingjournaling/ The fact that it gives me a place where I can carefully organize and plan out myself its just amazing. The outer cover is also appealing , it gives me the chilled type of vibes the leopards the trees and the color of the cover itself. Chui is my baddie any time am excited , low and having mixed feelings she always has my back. My mum got me Chui last year just as she does with all my other notebooks.

Army my water bottle

I call it Army since the prints on the water bottle are that similar to the army. Anyone who knows me knows how I love to hydrate my body, hydration of the body is very important as it leaves your feeling fresh and reenergized . Army is a double wall insulated bottle to mean that it can keep both hot water hot and cold water cold for up to 6 or more hours. It is made of stainless to mean its very strong and durable. I got it as a gift from a family friend.

My watch

At this point, I know you were expecting my watch to have a name unfortunately it does not. For the longest time, I love wearing watches, I love the way a watch will add more details to your attire. Making you look more elegant and classy and the fact that you can tell the time easily without having to go back and check your phone. It was a gift from my bestfriend, shout out to Janny Jenipher who always pays attention to the small things.

Knotless braids

A special thank you to the inventor of this hairstyle ( I really wish I had like a personal contact just to extend my gratitude😂) I have fallen in love with this braids for real. They are super light on your head regardless of the number of braids you use to plait your hair. It is a protective style since you will not experience any breakage with your hair. Disclaimer they do take a lot of time to fix as it requires a lot of work to be done.

Just figuring it out

Just figuring it out is my podcast that talks about circumnavigating adulthood, the challenges what we did not know of adulthood and many more. I love expressing my self with all the means possible and I always enjoy recording the podcast. Just figuring it out is an amazing journey for me and if you weren’t part of the audience what are you waiting for🤷. Am super excited of what is in store for my listeners so do not miss out.

Chewing gum
Am the hugest fan of chewing gum or should I say my mouth loves chewing😂. It’s just magical how chewing gum can increase your concentration span instantly. I love how super active my brain can get while chewing and if you are looking for ways to concentrate more look no further as the solution is here . My favourite flavor for gum is the chilled type of gum that has a refreshing vibe.

Have a lovely week fan☺️and do not forget to be safe .

Welcome to my world

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where a girl is raped and gets blamed for it, being told that she should have done better to protect herself while the assailant roams free only to inflict the same suffering to another,

Welcome to my world , welcome to my world where a lady who stands her ground and knows what she wants gets labelled as stubborn or undeserving,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where justice is an imaginary flower that only sprouts in our imagination and petals are only existent in movies and stories while the innocent rot away in pathetic jail and guilty walk free of charge,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where pressure to succeed leads to constant failure as time and effort required to change lives ends up being more trouble than its worth,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where respect is given according to the size of your wallet,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where ice-cream is your best confident since it cant judge or announce to the entire world,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world where youth face constant criticism and negative comparison to others who are doing better than they while the critique slam all doors when same young people struggle to live up to golden standard by offering services,

Welcome to my world, welcome to my world ,

Where you matter ,and only you is responsible for you,

LOVE LANGUAGE

What is your love language? A question people find hard to answer or rather quite intimidating. Everyone has a love a language but in most cases people have not yet identified that this is the way I need to be loved or to be shown love by my significant other . Love language describes how we receive love from others. They are quite an important segment in relationships. Once you learn your partners love language you will be good to go and work on them efficiently. We shall have a look at the 5 different love languages ,how to use them, the pros and cons of each.

1.Words of affirmation

If you love being affirmed on a daily basis ,hearing encouraging words from your partner or even simple compliments from time to time then words of affirmation is your love language. The goodness of having such a partner is that the little things you say will matter to them but you have to be keen with your speech as any negative words will really impact them negatively and even hurt their feelings. With words of affirmation speech is very important and the consistency is also key as the moment you do not affirm them they get insecure.

how affirmed can you be

2.Physical touch

If you enjoy hugging , cuddling , holding hands or any other form of physical touch then this is for you. Physical touch is one of the highest form of intimacy it creates a sense of connectivity between you and your partner. If one has a partner whos love language is touch they at all cost should avoid any form of physical violence as it will impact on their relationship negatively. They should be keen on how they express themselves physically and be consistent on the physical touch.

3.Receiving gifts

Does receiving gifts from your spouse entice you? If it does then this is for you. Gifts are always the most kindest gesture that shows that some really cares about you. Although, most of the times people think that you must get expensive gifts for it to be valuable but the truth of the matter is that it does not just the fact that you remembered that your partner likes jewelry and you brought her that as a gift is such a nice move. You have to be keen with the little things they love or take notice of cause those are the most valuable things they would love for gifts it brings an aspect of a keen listener.

the little gifts do matter

4. Quality time

Engaging in activities together that you both love is one of the ways of spending quality time together . With this type of love language you will need to spare some time for yourselves so as to be able to communicate with each other. Having distant partner with such a love language can be hard to cope with. With such a partner you ought to give them your undivided attention and whenever you are together you have to keep of any form of distraction so as to give them your undivided attention. Communication is key in such a scenario so as to not make your partner feel less important or being least in your priorities.

5.Acts of service

Acts of service literally involve offering a helping hand for the responsibilities your significant other has. Words like can I help you are quite vital in such a relationship . You ought to help them around and at no point should you burden them with work or even lazy around with offering help. With such a partner you can not afford to be lazy or have broken commitments as you will appear to be not to care for your partners feeling .

acts of service

I believe with that we are able to identify our love languages .

Who else feels like having lengthy conversations should part of the love languages?

Have a lovely weekend fam

FINANCES

Managing your finances can be such a task I mean yes you get a certain amount of cash but how are you going to take charge of that money? Management of finances requires a lot of discipline for a person to master the act and its never too late to start managing your finances and never forget that habits are cultivated so the more you practice it the more it becomes easier for you as a person. I have tried the 6 tips for management of finances and I can assure you that they are very practical and habitual activities for one to initiate.

1.)Saving plan

Having a saving plan or even a saving account is very essential . For the longest time saving has been put across as a cumbersome activity , its sort of a burden to many who do not have a clear understanding of what it really means. So what is a saving, saving is setting aside money for future use or for a specific use during specific time. Saving as little as you can is very important as the little things do matter . The only requirement for saving is to have discipline for example you set a certain day ,week or month that you will be saving and stick to the plan. Also to spice up the saving process you can have a saving goal so as to look up to the saving journey that you will partake.

Save as little as you can

2.) Prioritizing your needs

Coming from a shopaholic (where everything is important as long as it strikes your eyes😂) you do need to prioritize your needs together with the budget you have. Most of the times you will find that we go impulse on goods or items we do not really need and we end up going broke for no good reason. We also need to look at some fun activities that at times are not necessary but we still engage in cutting down on such activities will save you some coins. A good method I use is listing down my wants or needs in a hierarchical form from the most important to the least important and at all times it does work magics.

3.)Emergence funds

An emergence fund is some cash that is set aside for the rainy season. Its very important as it enables one to prepare for uncertainties in the near future. Just like savings it requires a high form of discipline and it more so the same concept of saving the only difference is that it prepares you for things you did not plan for to occur. Start an emergence fund you will never be disappointed.

4.) Avoiding debts

Debts usually are a financial set back as it brings your finances forth and back. Living a debt free life is usually important as you get to control and see how your finances are used. In most cases the creditor requires an additional cash as from the one he or she had lent you. Will all you can and your power avoid debts at all costs as they only incur you more and more financial loss unless yes its very necessary.

5.) Chama

Involving yourself in healthy chama is very important as they help in securing your cash. The goodness of this groups is that you are obliged to the members so at the end of the day you will have to honor your pledge and hence you will be saving . There is nothing that is so sweet as receiving your money during your cycle .You also get to interact with different group of people who in one way or another they will have an impact on you.

Unity in togetherness

With this management tips you will be sure to ace your finances.

Have a lovely week fam😊

https://anchor.fm/nadel-kavochi/episodes/Tips-for-taking-charge-of-our-finances-euoimo a podcast on the same topic

The August 7th Park and Museum

The August 7th Park and Museum is a chilled ,relaxed place to be as it is situated in the cbd of Nairobi, Kenya.

The entrance of the park
Fun fact the park is also know as bomb blast park as it was earlier the american embassy that was bombed

A lit bit of history about the park, on August 7th 1988, a group of terrorist used a car bomb to blow up the United States Embassy located at the Moi and Hailey Selassie Avenues causing death of 218 people and the place was later on donated by the Kenyan and American people to a trust charged with turning it into a memorial park as a tribute to the public.

The park itself has various sites and we shall have a look at them.

The Peace Memorial Museum
The museum has different things hanged on the wall, just as a remembrance of the bombing that took place . There’s also a documentary on the events of that specific day that takes one and a half hours.

The Memorial Wall
It commemorates the victims who died and it is a central feature in the park.

The Memorial Wall with the 218names of the victims who died in 1988

Conference facilities and meeting rooms
They have two remarkable conference facilities that can be hired and the each of the two conference facilities have names, the first conference facility to your right is the Wangari Mathai conference center and to your furthest left is the Nelson Mandela conference center. They have various quotes available and the environment is condusive for meetings . To your way out of the museum they have a glass-like structure for donation .

The symbolic landscape
It has stones by the pathway of the park that were collected from the riverbed and it signifies the resilience of the kenyan people to always fight terrorism.

The trees are indigenous to show that people from all over kenya are affected by the tragic act. They also provide a good shade for those relaxing around the park.

The fountain, that was made in the form of the Ying Yang sign, symbolizes the two sides of life ,turbulent and tranquil.

The fountain situated at the centre of the park

The park is a place you would want to relax and just enjoy what nature has to offer be sure to pay a visit when around.

Does looks matter

A couple of days, two influencers tried going to a five star hotel in tattered clothes just to get people’s reaction. To their uttermost surprise no one ever stopped them or even mentioned anything to them. What happened to being your brothers keeper ? How many seconds would it take you just to mention that hey, there something wrong with your … or could rectify this kindly.

Having each other’s back

It took a while before anyone attended to them and the waiters were less concerned . They had to call for a waiter inorder to be attended for and imagine if it was vice versa would it have been the same?

Another story is narrated of a cute guy who stepped on a lady and never bothered to say sorry , he just took off (“throwing a smile to the lady he had stepped on”)

I can only imagine the lady’s facial expression

So what does the society have to say about looks? Does having the look really matter?

In the society we habit in, people tend to judge you with your appearance .Your value is immediately attached to how you appear eg a smartly dressed person is oftenly perceived as rich (definitely how can you dress expensively and be broke 😂)But is this the right mind set?

Supposed the influencers were smartly dressed would they have received the same treatment?It’s high time the society detaches the value of people as per their appearance. We ought to embrace equilty for all regardless of anything #embrace equality

FEMINISM

There is a lot of controversy about feminism currently and today will have a look at what feminism is about in a nutshell. Feminism is a movement that belief in social , economic and political equality of the sexes. The main aim of feminism is to advocate for equal rights for women and acknowledge the fact that both men and women deserve equality in all opportunities, treatment and respect.

Did you know that in Britain 1928 the Suffragettes (first people to begin feminist movement)won their fight as then women were allowed to vote.

Types of feminism

1.) Socialist feminism

This is a movement that calls for an end to capitalist through socialist reformation of the economy . By this I mean that both men and women ought to have equal rights in their workplaces.

2.) Cultural feminism

This is a movement that points out how modern society is hurt by encouraging masculine behavior to reign . A good example is when only the male child was eligible to inheritance of the fathers property or when only the male children we educated.

3.) Liberal feminism

This is a movement that believes all individuals should be free to exposure of equal opportunities and rights.

Misconceptions about feminism

1.) It promotes women superiority

Majority believe that feminism is all about spearheading the women to more authority as they sideline the other gender but the truth of the matter is that feminism is about advocating for equal rights for the women for them to be at per with their male counterparts.

2.) Only women can be feminist

For the longest time feminism has been labelled as a woman thing as they basically advocate for women right but as we can see time is changing as also men are engaging in the advocacy of equal rights.

3.) Feminism and equality are different things

Feminism and equality are both the same as they both advocate for similar treatment regardless of the gender so at no point should they be regarded as different entities.

4.) Feminist hate men

People should get to understand that feminism is not an anti-man movement but rather a movement that is for equality. Feminism has nothing to do with bring men down or rather sidelining them its interest lies with equality for all and nothing much.

Things they don’t tell you about natural hair

Am those kind of people who are in love with their natural hair. It’s been a year and a half since I started my journey with natural hair. To be honest the transition from relaxed to natural hair has been quite a journey of learning and unlearning.

1)Changing of hair products is healthy

It is advisable to always switch up with your hair products be it the shampoo or even the hair oil as this helps to nourish your hair and it gives your hair just that look and body that you require. Personally I use Mikalla and Cantu products for my shampoo, conditioner and treatment , Amla,Blue magic, Coconut oil and Olive oil spray sheen they always work best for me

2) Protective styles
These are hairstyles that protect your hair from too much damage they are hair friendly styles eg we have the mini twists, flat twists and many others later on we shall expound on them

The beauty of mini twist you can always change the hairstyle to your preference

3)Treating your hair
Use if treatment for ones hair is essential as it helps in unclogging the hair follicles, releasing natural conditioning oil , it helps in relieving dry scalp,it removes all those nasty dry flakes, it also stimulates blood flow in the head and neck area so that nutrients can reach the scalp and nourish the hair

4)Trimming your hair once in a while should be mandatory

Trimming of your hair helps your hair to grow heathier because it removes the hair that would split. Hair at the root is also and you’re able to maintain the length and avoid splitting.

The confidence that hair gives you

5)Moisture is a key element
Just like our body that needs to be rehydrated from time to time so is our hair. Our hair requires alot of moisture to keep it hydrated.

THINGS THEY DO NOT TELL YOU ABOUT RELATIONSHIP

Just as I had mentioned earlier we are embarking on a series of things they do not they tell you about as this life we live in is fool of adventures and new things that come our way day in day out and hey there is nor manual addressing life. Today we shall have a look at relationships as it is quite a controversial issue currently as people have different approaches toward it they .

1.) Forgiveness

The fact is that you will have to acquire this virtue as people make mistakes and when a mistake is done it ought to be forgiven. It takes a lot of courage to practice this virtue continuously with no fail.

2.) Picking your struggle

There is absolutely no one who is perfect and complete and hence when in a relationship you should be able to pick your struggle wisely and be able to live with it as every one comes with their own baggage but you should be careful with whatever baggage you allow yourself to carry as toxic ones are not good for you.

3.) Its more about choice than emotions

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By this I mean, there is more to a lasting relationship than just love as love can never be enough for a relationship to last there is trust, support, care and many more . You all have to have the will power of wanting it to work and being able to put your words into actions as actions speak louder than words .

4.) Understanding your significant other

Understanding your significant other character is key as it will reduce misunderstandings in the relationship . Its key to know their temperament as this will enable you to relate with them in different ways and it will explain some of their actions .

5.) Equality

This is key as relationships should be a two way traffic . This deals with questions as why would you not do the same? why is it always me doing this ?

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6.) Knowing your partners love language

Everyone has a love language and mastering your partners love language is very important as you will be able to communicate in the relationship. What is your love language?

Later on we shall have a look at love languages so stick around.

Have a lovely week fam

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WHAT THEY DONT TELL YOU ABOUT RUNNING A BUSINESS

A month ago my pal and I started a jewelry business .I was super excited as jewelry has always been my niche and sharing my love for jewelry with other people of course was yet another level of excitement . Coming to think of it for sure there things we were not prepared for.

1.) What is the most popular item

Being a jewelry business their quite a number of items like rings, necklaces, earing and anklets. Frankly speaking their certain items that tend to sell well compared to others. So tricking that balance ought to be hard at times as this round a certain item sells well the other time another sells well so it needs a lot of strategy.

2.) Losses

You have to prepare for losses like seriously. A lot can happen in the period of selling your goods so you have to be psychologically prepared for the losses even if the chances are very minimal. You can set aside cash that can be used to incur the losses.

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3.) It takes time

Getting involved in jewelry was a strategic plan we had I mean how hard would it be to sell jewelry? But it took time to complete the stock as one we were the fresh face of the business. Developing your brand is a crucial stage in early business as it is much easy to work with a developed brand than a new brand . At this stage some patience will pay as good things do take time.

4.) Stagnation

Of course with your first sales you know who to target you already have customers at your finger tips but as time goes by you exhaust your customers . Leaving you in the dilemma of who to sell to next. In this particular stage the art of networking becomes very important as you have to have sufficient networking skills in order to avoid such a scenario.

5.) Marketing skills

Your marketing skills ought to be topnotch in order to be successful . You must know how to market your goods to the outside world in a way that is appealing to attract many eyes. This include taking quality pictures , proper description of the item , the pricing of the item stated and being systematic in your posting of the pictures.

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6.) Having mentor s in that specific field you are venturing in

Previously in our post we had talked about having mentors in everything we do, but having a mentor who is in the same field is just another level of mentorship as they clearly understand what you are going through, they get to guide you as they tell you the pros and cons of the business . Mentors just act like an eye opener in whatever you are doing. ( my mentorship on business is now available with no fee include😂😂)

You can find our jewelry store in Instagram @ collencollection for quality jewelry or still you can ask for more information in the comment section .

I have begun a series of things they did not tell you about… and your participation will be highly regarded down below on the comment section if you have any topic or thing they did not tell you about that you later on came to found out about in a harsh manner. Have a lovely week.😊

Staying focused on on your goal

Staking out success on your own terms requires some soul searching. To achieve that success, you’ll need to carefully evaluate your current situation and set specific goals.

1.) Know where you’re aiming
You have to have a clear vision of what you want to achieve

What ever you but your mind to you will achieve 😊

2.) Write down your goals
Inscribing our goals in black and white , the subconscious begins to look for opportunities to realize them.

3.)Pay attention to how you write down your goals

Avoid negatives and always be specific as possible as the more specific your goals the clearer your subconscious will be and the more likely you will be able to achieve them.

4) Tell a friend
It always helpful to share with a friend as it enables you to be honest with yourself and its quite helpful whenever you seem that your dream scare you.

5)Create a self development plan

Find out what it takes to reach or to achieve your goal the tools needed or even the financial aspect of your goal

Having a goal is never enough we should clearly have a plan on how to achieve that goal as it makes the goal to be more achieve able or as you can say to be more real.

What are the things you do towards your goal?

Lessons learnt from hardball for women

Business is an aggressive ,pushy sport. You’ve got to get on playing field and show your staff

Hardball for women is a book that teaches women to win in the game of business by Pat Heim though the book in general is quite educative to anyone in the business world or even employed .

Lesson 1:You need mentors
In everything we do , we need someone whose experienced in that field Someone who you can inquire from, some one who you can share your challenges with and they will definitely have a solution for it. In short you need a cheerleader.

Lesson 2: Presentation

The way one presents themselves is very important ie how you dress determines the overall message you send in general , the most important rule of thumb is “Dress for the job you want not the job you are in”

Lesson3: How not to let criticism get into your head
You should first of all recognize that whatever criticism you get is just a person’s opinion about you. Don’t let it get into your head.

Lesson 4: Not taking extra responsibility

This is the mostly experienced with women who lose sight of their goals by taking extra responsibilities. You will have to agree a large percentage of women are virtually responsibility magnets as they fear that if they don’t act on a need it will never be resolved .Sometimes just relax and let others notice that blank space.

Lesson 5 : Success talk or failure talks
How we talk about ourselves shapes others perception of us. So always have positive talks about your self as you are also manifesting good for yourself.

Skills a leader oughts to have

Inorder to lead one oughts to be lead

Great leaders can make leadership look so easy ,they announce a direction and the team eagerly follows. If you have experience in a leadership position for sure you know that that isn’t the case. So today will be looking at skills a leader oughts to have.

1)Directing skills
This enhances a one way communication as the leader presents how he wants the task to be performed and it done its way hences it ensures efficiency is met. This skill is valuable especially when:

a)You need to take charge of a situation.

b)Time is limited
c)No alternatives are possible
d)You must win that particular task or else you whole efforts will be subortage

2)Coaching skills
It enhances a two way communication as the leader is soliciting her juniors ideas and opinions in problem solving yet the ultimate decision still rests on the leader.

3)Supporting skills
The leader works with her juniors , but now allows her to take the lead in determine a plan of action , it emphasis on dialogues as means of communication. It’s quite essential as the junior feels motivated with the responsibility left for them at hand.

4)Delegating skills
In this case a leader gives her junior their own responsibility inorder to see how they can work around to complete the task .This is quite effective in a place where your junior is fully competent and committed to her task atleast for sure you will not be disappointed with the outcome.

What other leadership skills do you think one ought to have?

Have a lovely week😊

Chia seeds

These are multipurpose seeds that have a high nutritive value. Though it may be slimmy but hey it’s worth a trial.

Importance of chia seeds
1.)Good sources of fatty acids such as omega 3.

2.)Low glycemic index food helpful regulation daily blood glucose levels.

3.)Good source of minerals such as calcium, iron, magnesium, manganese and phosphorus.

4.)Good source of protein

5.)Good source of vitamins such as vitamin B, folic acid ,Niacin, Riboflavin and thiamine

How it can be used
a.) In pudding just to add some ingredients and colour to the pudding.

b.)The toasted version can be used in bread, cookies and muffins

c.)It can be sprinkled to youghurt , smoothie and milkshakes.

d.)To thicken sauces and gravies

e.) In hot water.

Hey you can grab a pack at very affordable price at food plus outlets

Dreams from my father

A story of race and inheritance, here we get to see Obama struggling with identity issues through his lifetime wanting to belong

Lessons Barack Obama learnt through his lifetime
1)From his father
Through the story Gramps and Toot told about his father, he learnt that the secret to a man’s success is through his confidence.

Back then his father attended the International Music Festival where he was to perform some african song but he later on found out that the woman who had performed just before him was semiprofessional Hawaiian singer. This didn’t frightened him him as he stood up and sung in front of a big crowd . Courageous isn’t it?

From Lolo
Lolo was his Indonesian step-father though they really didn’t have that stable relationship but atleast Lolo was able to be a father figure then and he didn’t push barack either .”The first thing to remember is how to protect yourself”, “Sometimes you can’t worry about hurt but sometimes you worry only about getting where you have to go ,by this Lolo meant to tell Barack that no matter the circumstances that may come his way he has to push forward.

Chicago
He was 21 right after his studies in Hawaii.He landed an organizing job where by the end if the years he was able to assit the poor and young teenage girls who were mother’s then .He advocated the movement for the Chicago House Authority to remove asbestos from Atgeld’s Management office.

Kenya
He got the sense of belonging that he was quenching for his entire life. It started from the airport when the lady there recognized his name and for the first time it was correctly pronounced he was amazed by this . He finally got to answer all the questions he had in mind and reunited with his family members. He left Kenya feeling fulfilled and with some sense of entitlement.

The humor in this book is too much for you to miss out kindly grab a copy and enjoy the entertainment that comes your way.

Adopting new habits faster

This comes in handy with these month as it is the first month of the year and quite a number of us are working on making their new year’s resolutions fulfilled.Hence, learning on how to adopt new habits faster will be essential towards our new resolution.

1.) Decide what is important and why
What is your motivation for wanting to develop a new habit . Envision the outcome of you don’t make the change.

2.)Giving yourself a timeline
When adopting new habits giving yourself timelines is very important as this will give you more reason to keep on pushing and wanting to achieve your goal.

3.)Make the habit more reasonable

Choose a realistic new habit that you desire and know that you can accomplish and always start small.

4.)Choose one habit at a time
Trying to change several habits at once is too much for anyone. Instead , concentrate on one behaviour change until it becomes a routine then you can add a second one.

5.)Don’t expect perfection

You are bound to slip up one or more times as you work your way towards new behaviour. Be patient with yourself and accept the slip then recommit to new habits.

6.)Be consistent

Consistency is key to establish a new habit . Do the same thing day after day to set it firmly in your mind and routine. Be accountable , either by tracking new habits or chart or interfacing with others.

“Success is a few simple discipline practised every day”,Jim Rohn

Importance of morning routine

Towards the end of the year, we had a new years resolution list and having a classified routine was among them. Today we shall have look at the importance of a morning routine. I personally love having a morning routine as I am more productive in the morning compared to the rest of the day. There’s no specific way for one to have a morning routine as people have different things they would want to do in the morning so anything you chose is always up to you. Here are the importance of a morning routine.

1. It sets the tone
Waking up early or rather at a specific time every morning is said to be good for your health. This helps reduce waking up tired as your body has adjusted to that specific time. Hence, you will always wake up feeling refreshed and ready to conquer the world. With great mornings the chances of having a great day is always on the higher side

Loving or hating the life your living is solely repeated by self talk

2) Becoming the best version of yourself
Having a morning routine ensures that one gets to be super productive .Being productive comes with a sense of feeling accomplished or as others would say unleashing the best version of yourself.

3.)Sets you on track
Waking up daily with a method of maximizing your time is the best thing. You accomplish majority of the things you ought to do on that day hence it keeps you on the right track.

4.) Boosts your mental health

Mental health is something very crucial, we ought to ensure that we have a healthy mental life. Morning routine enables us to be organized and it enables us to perform tasks in an organized manner hence our brains health is boosted as things occurs in an organized manner and there is no pressure to undertake anything .

Happy new year🎉🎉🎉fam hoping this year will unfold alot of good things for us

New year’s resolution

The year is finally coming to an end, definitely everyone is excited to know what 2021 will unfold or aren’t you anxious? Certainly, there’s no new year without a new years resolution whether written or unwritten. Today I offer new years resolution guide , enjoy😊

1.Saving plan
After a rough 2020 with alot of financial strain am quite sure that a saving plan will be your first step. You don’t have to save big, small saving can also help out because what that really matters is the fact that you are able to administer the saving culture in you.

2. Health
Yes your health, a healthy life = happy life. We should watch what we eat, less fats, balanced diet and initiating a good relationship with water preferably 2 litres per day.

3. Reading culture
Establishing a reading culture is very crucial .Reading never ends . Reading activates your brain, it’s also a source of entertainment and ofcourse it expounds your knowledge.

4.Listening to Ted talks
For the past few months I have been a great fan of ted talks. I just love the way people come together to share their life experiences as experience is the best teacher , learning from people’s experience gives you an upper hand in dealing with things .

5. Investing in yourself
If you don’t invest in yourself no one will as sauti sol could have it “Usipojipenda Utapendwa na nani “(if you don’t love yourself noone will)This involves doing things that will benefit you and that would make you happy. You can try travelling, studying a certain course or even purchasing goods that will make you feel good about yourself.

6.Having a routine
Routines are oftenly underrated as they are viewed to be tedious but in real sense routines are good habitual activities that enhances growth in once life be it a morning or a night routine

A special thank you to my wordpress family😊🎉🎉for their support and always sparing time to read through it’s been an awesome year and nice meeting you 🎆🎆 and amazing posts are own their way so always stick around happy new year 🎈🎈

2020 in a nutshell

2020 has been such a nostalgic year.Alot has happened but at the end of the day we are grateful for everything that has come our way.This is how 2020 has been for me.

1) WordPress family

May 19 I started my own blog, the love and support I got from my wordpress family was tremendous.A special thank you to them and also a special thank you to someone special ❤️❤️who pushed me to go ahead.

2.)Skincare routine

Mid June , I begin a skin care routine,hurray!!!I promise you having a skin care routine is the best thing you can do to yourself. It leaves you feeling fullfilled .If you haven’t tried it please give it a trial it worth it.Later on I will be sharing my skin care routine stay tuned.

3.) Learning to let go

Letting go is always important though not an easy task, we do have things that we can’t imagine living without them but dear just let go it’s best for you.

4.)Growth

I have experienced growth in many ways, learning and unlearning habits have been quite a task. We should always have room for growth, correction and enabling ourselves to learn from experience.

Merry Christmas and don’t forget to show acts of kindness during this festive season.🎉🎉

Cimon and Pero tale

The last week the ancient painting that was sold for30 million euros was hitting the headline.Its human nature as the first thing we noticed was the perverseness of the painting in question.I mean how can an old man be suckling such a young lady🤷 but the history behind it is tremendous and very compassionate. Cimon , the poor man was sentenced to death by starvation for stealing a loaf of bread during the reign of Louis XIV in France.

Pero, the woman in the painting was his only daughter and the only visitor allowed to his cell.She was allowed to visit him daily but was frisked such that no food was to be taken in.After 4 months the man was still surviving with no weight loss, the authorities were perplexed and started spying on Pero once she entered the cell They were astonished to find out that she was breastfeeding her father to the fullest sharing her baby’s milk.

Wow!The kind of compassion Pero had for her father .The judges realized Cimon after realizing the compassion Pero had for his father.Its the Christmas season let’s spread our love and the festive mood to those around us. As these historical roman charity story shows the compassion women have. It was easy for pero to breastfeed her child alongside her father but all in all she made it possible. The sacrificial is very significant here. Happy Holidays!!!

Friendship😊

Earlier last week,I was working on a certain project that required assistance from a couple of friends.At first,I wasn’t really sure of my capability to mobilize my friends to perform this task but to my shock the response I got from them was tremendous.

The bottomline was that my friends came through when I needed them the most.Shout to my friends who had my back.

In the current society that we live in,it’s very rare to find people who will stand by you come rain come sunshine, so whenever you come across one kindly stick to them.

It’s always nice to be your brother’s keeper and whenever you can offer a helping hand please do it won’t kill you to do so.

Friends will always have your back😊

How’s the festive season 🎉🎉 coming through??

Watch out for the festive songs in the next blogs😊 let’s all get into the festive mood🎉🎉have a lovely week

Insecurity

In one way or another we get insecure about ourselves.Be it our bodies,our character or even our significant others.Whatever makes you insecure is not necessarily a bid deal for someone else . Coming to think of it, you will find out that you were only insecure for no solid reason and that people in your surrounding don’t even notice your insecurity as the rather see it as a flaw.

So is it human to be insecure?Ofcourse yes, I mean who doesn’t get insecure . But the mist important thing is that we should always learn to overcome our insecurity.

As a person my biggest Insecurity has always been photographs . Yes, photographs 😂 and hence the emergence of me being photophobic.

Am always worried of how am going to look? Is the lightening good enough? Am I smiling sufficiently?but coming to think of it what are you really insecure of.

Happy new month🎉🎉
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